Too Many Chiefs

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My prayers are with you all Diana.
Both my Dad and FIL died suddenly so there was no chance for anyone to take care of them. My mom thank God is is very good shape and MIL is doing very well for her 80+ yrs as well. I'm sure if something happens so MIL needs help, Gregs bro and sisters will charge to her side so we won't really be involved. With my Mom it will be a different matter since my oldest dd (a nurse who lives 4 blocks from mom) and I am usually the ones she comes to... So far we haven't had to deal with this.

I hope things improve there. It IS hard... and some more domineering personalities can just make it that much harder.

[Gina]

Diana my prayers are with you and your FIL. I was my parents main caretaker and its not easy taking care of eldery parents. I have brothers one lived an hr. away and the other brother was local. He use to come by and visit that was it. I took them to drs. etc.. It seems that your SIL is a take charge type of personality and it is her parents, so if she wants to bring them to her home. The rest of the family really can't say anything. Its her decision and as long as she doesn't complain thats it all on her. Don't worry about it. If she complains then the rest of the siblings can shut her up.

Good luck to your FIL.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Gina

Diana my prayers are with you and your FIL. I was my parents main caretaker and its not easy taking care of eldery parents. I have brothers one lived an hr. away and the other brother was local. He use to come by and visit that was it. I took them to drs. etc.. It seems that your SIL is a take charge type of personality and it is her parents, so if she wants to bring them to her home. The rest of the family really can't say anything. Its her decision and as long as she doesn't complain thats it all on her. Don't worry about it. If she complains then the rest of the siblings can shut her up.

Good luck to your FIL.

Thanks, Gina. She came a few days ago and took them to her place. I think that it's for the best. My husband seems fine with her decision and it's made things more peaceful. I just hated how he was treated about the whole thing. It bothered me more than it bothered him.