Kissing issues

[Ponyup]

My husband doesn't like to kiss. And personally he's not the greatest kisser either but, it's better now. I miss those people you could just kiss for hours & he's just not into that. No one will be perfect & you have to decide what you are willing to live without. All my hubby's wonderful qualities totally out weighed his short comings in the kissing department & now it's totally a non-issue. However if you are making him feel like he's undesirable or doing something wrong the two of you need to try & work it out or he'll just get more hurt & perhaps distant. I'm with janet; try & figure out what the problem is & then fix it. Men can learn. My hubby was an aweful kisser when we met, but I've changed my style & he changed his & now we get on pretty well when we do it now it's nice. But you have to tell him what's up or you'll hurt his feelings.

[judy]

I agree with both Janet and Ponyup. Kissing and making out is just so nice.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by judy

I agree with both Janet and Ponyup. Kissing and making out is just so nice.

Now hold on there a minute Judy...I in no way said that I may feel that way with someone else, but for now...no way. I still want separate rooms and hopefully soon that will happen. Good things are worth waiting for.

[Ponyup]

Janet you are so bad. I'm trying to convince my hubby that since he doesn't like to kiss I should get a free pass to kiss others, he's yet to go for that.

[Janet]

Well now you're married ya know and you're not suppose to want to kiss someone else. I'm okay....I don't want to kiss anyone...LOL or do anything else for that matter. I know I'm a stinker.

Originally Posted by Ponyup

Janet you are so bad. I'm trying to convince my hubby that since he doesn't like to kiss I should get a free pass to kiss others, he's yet to go for that.

lol yea right!

[Marilyn]

Personally, I think kissing is very important. If you don't click kissing, is the chemistry really right? Life is short and you usually get one real chance to get it right. Just make sure before you "settle" for less than you would like. Try to think how you will feel in 30 years.

[Ponyup]

I've been with my hubby like 8 years now. And it actually makes me feel really special when we kiss because I know he's not a fan, but he does it because it's important to me. And no we didn't mesh in kissing immediately, but we meshed in every other way. Now that we've been married for a little while I've found that the physical stuff isn't that important to me. I always thought I was a sexual person, but I was just using my body to make people like me. I found a wonderful man who's my best friend & loves everything about me not just my body & that's so much more important. He's not very passionate or emotional, but that is so good for me cause I am very emotional & he keeps me grounded. No one can tell you what's right for you. If he's the right one then He's the right one that's all their is to it & no two relationships are ever the same. I believe some people get divorsed because marriage wasn't what they thought it would be or how it is in the movies. I'm here to tell you that you can never predict how you're relationship will be by looking at others. Everyone's relationship is different so you have to find what works & feels right for you.

[judy]

Originally Posted by Janet

Now hold on there a minute Judy...I in no way said that I may feel that way with someone else, but for now...no way. I still want separate rooms and hopefully soon that will happen. Good things are worth waiting for.

You are so bad Janet! Actually, those two sentences were two different statements. I agreed with what you and Ponyup said in your previous posts.

Then, I put in my own 2 cents - that kissing and making out is fun.

[Mandy]

Hahaha if i was brave enough, i would add a heck of a lot more to this thread, but i'll keep it cool, and say - life is for us all to enjoy

[judy]

- and quite true.

Life is short.

[toodles]

I'm really in the same boat as you. I don't like to kiss my husband. I am NOT a sexual person with him...but I love him. and that has been proven through some very rough times. Most of those rough times were created because of my lack of physical interest. He doesnt' understand it...and there just doesn't seem to be any way to change it. It is just how I am.

I am physical with him because I know it makes him happy. We aren't intimate as much as he would like (that would be impossible LOL) and I never REALLY kiss him. We just "peck". He would like me to really "all out" kiss him...but I just don't want to.

I honestly think that part of why I am not "into" it is because of my being chlostophobic. I don't like things in or near my face. so kissing is out. sexually, I am physically very hard to please so there is just no real point in me having sex. the only reason I do it is for him.

i wish you luck. I know it's hard,....I am very familiar with that.

hopefully it will either get better for you, or you will learn to live without the kissing...as I have done.

Originally Posted by Ponyup

My husband doesn't like to kiss. And personally he's not the greatest kisser either but, it's better now. I miss those people you could just kiss for hours & he's just not into that. No one will be perfect & you have to decide what you are willing to live without. All my hubby's wonderful qualities totally out weighed his short comings in the kissing department & now it's totally a non-issue. However if you are making him feel like he's undesirable or doing something wrong the two of you need to try & work it out or he'll just get more hurt & perhaps distant. I'm with janet; try & figure out what the problem is & then fix it. Men can learn. My hubby was an aweful kisser when we met, but I've changed my style & he changed his & now we get on pretty well when we do it now it's nice. But you have to tell him what's up or you'll hurt his feelings.

Same with me, my bf's good qualities outweighs the fact that we dont really kiss. I don't make him feel like he is undesirable or anything like that, i just pull away sometimes if he wants to full on kiss, like i will peck him a lot but to make out i don't like to with him. I will occasionally do it but not all the time. I guess it's not that big an issue for him, just for me. But it's something i can live without or learn to love it later on. He is a great guy so the fact that we don't kiss is not such a big deal, i just question if it will affect our relationship later on, we only have about 2 yrs together. Everything else is good. Thanks!