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Old 02-09-2008, 10:57 AM   #1
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Well, he called in Chris first. Amanda, the receptionist, later told me she could hear my boss being kinda angry at him and then Chris mumbled something and my boss said "Well she wasn't even here!!! She was on holidays!!!!" So it seems like he was trying to blame me for stuff not getting done, and my boss completely stood up for me. Then they both came back to the drafting room and my boss asked to speak to me. I started following him, and then he said "Actually, Chris you can come too." So we all got into my boss's office, and he said he wanted to call the people in our head office to see how we can better organize our drafting department. Chris just kept going on about how we don't know what's priority and that was the only problem (absolutely not a problem at all for me), so he told my boss and the head office guy that we need to put all of our drafting needs in a pool basically. The drafting needs for all the offices will be available somewhere on every server so every drafter in every city will be able to access it and take what they can handle. It's absolutely not going to solve the problem because he won't pick up any more at all. But he did work for most of the day yesterday, so maybe the talk with my boss had something to do with it.
What bothered me AFTER the meeting was no sooner did we sit down at our computers but he was grilling me about if I went to my boss about it. I really don't think it was his business WHO went to him about it, if anyone. My boss knew nothing got done by him, a lot of the engineers are angry with how everything gets piled on me and I'm only one person so their stuff doesn't get done as quickly as they'd like. It could have been ANYONE, and everyone encouraged me to say something so I did. I kind of think it's on behalf of the whole office that it happened. So when he said "Were you the one who talked to him about it" I just said "No." because he doesn't need to know that. Then he started running through a list of the people who he thinks did it, and I can guarantee he will be asking everyone if they did it.
Amanda also let me know yesterday that she sent my boss a complaint about the language (curse-filled tantrums) and remarks (sexist, racist) that Chris has been making. A couple of days ago he was talking to a girl on the phone (she's a bigger girl, my age, and he knows we hang out and talk and whatever) and he had no problem saying loudly, in front of me and everyone else "WHAT A F-ING COW!!!!" when he hung up, because he was frustrated. He also was attacking our lab manager (also a friend of mine) yesterday when he was nowhere in sight. He has made comments about Amanda's cleavage, my underwear, how my bra color doesn't match my shirt (if a strap happens to be visible from my collar), and remarks about native people (I have some native in me, Amanda's father is native, and at the time we also had a native man working in our office). Amanda said in her email that she thinks these remarks are creating negativity in our office and people should be able to come to work to a happy and calm environment. She asked him to please bring it up in our meeting on Monday, without mentioning names or anything. He later walked by her desk, gave her a thumbs-up, and said "I'll take care of it"
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Old 02-09-2008, 01:19 PM   #2
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Way to go, Lindsey!!! Looks like you did the right thing. So glad it's turning out at least a little better. I'm a little disappointed that your boss did not speak to you one on one. It would have been good if he had told you he appreciated your input, which I'm sure he did.

The bottomline is what to focus on though. If things are improved as a result of your actions, whether or not you get the kudos you think you may deserve, it's still good. We're proud of you!!!!!
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Old 02-09-2008, 01:58 PM   #3
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I don't know anything about engineering, so all I can say is 'way to go' for standing up for yourself.
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Old 02-11-2008, 05:15 AM   #4
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Lindsey I think Chris & my co-workers are brothers. He gets nasty with me, does no work & puts everyone down. He's being moved out of our department now. I'm upset about it because he's taking a lot of my work & won't do it as well & me & I would imagine it will come back to me before too long because he just won't get it done. But he's moving to the office across town so I won't have to deal with his negativity anymore. so it may be a blessing in disguise. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself. Maybe your boss will keep a better on him now that he knows there's a problem.
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Old 02-11-2008, 05:21 AM   #5
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This is the first place I've ever worked where I've found that kind of negativity in the work place, and to think it's coming from a 45 year old man! I'm glad your coworker got moved. Unfortunately mine will never be moved or fired. I'm anxious to see if my boss brings up anything about negative and inappropriate language in this morning's meeting.
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Old 02-11-2008, 09:57 AM   #6
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I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself, but sorry that you didn't get to talk to the boss one-on-one. If things don't change you may need to consider talking to the boss alone!
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Lindsey, I'm glad your email was taken seriously and in the way you'd hoped.
I really hope steps are taken to improve your workplace now. Just one or 2 bad apples can really make it miserable for all.
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