Am I Nuts?

[HALEY]

humm you want to work and i wish we had the money so i didn't have to work and i can stay home with my son, i always miss him when im hear at work and i am missing so much of life being here, it just stinks sometimes... when the sitter tells me he took two steps today, i just want to cry some days...

[judy]

Of course you're nuts! Who isn't?

Seriously though, only you know what you need. I work part-time - I teach college on Sat. mornings. I like the extra money and I'm very ambivalent about having the
structure. No - actually I do not like the structure or the responsibility, but I do love teaching and I like being with people.

I hope they're smart enough to realize how good you are and they hire you, whether you want it or not.

[Janet]

I've often thought about going back to work full-time but always talk myself out of it. I think I'll stick to what I have for right now...LOL.

I think you just may like it for only 24 hours a week. Like you said...chance to get out, see other people. I say go for it. If it turns out not to be convenient with your life and breeding program, you can always leave.

[Tink]

Haley, it's a whole different ball game when you have small kids. Mine are all grown and have finally left home, so I'm here all day long with the dogs. My husband drives semi so is only home for about a day and a half each weekend... so I have plenty of time to fill and feel I should be doing something constructive with it.

We aren't wealthy by any stretch of the imagination, so my working again wouldn't be as frivilous as it might sound. We should have our home paid off in a couple years, but there are definitely things we'd like to do that would happen a lot sooner if I worked.

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by Tink

Haley, it's a whole different ball game when you have small kids. Mine are all grown and have finally left home, so I'm here all day long with the dogs. My husband drives semi so is only home for about a day and a half each weekend... so I have plenty of time to fill and feel I should be doing something constructive with it.

We aren't wealthy by any stretch of the imagination, so my working again wouldn't be as frivilous as it might sound. We should have our home paid off in a couple years, but there are definitely things we'd like to do that would happen a lot sooner if I worked.

I would say go for then Tink, give it a try and hey if you don't like it, you can always quit... i just miss him when im here at work.. maybe one day we'll hit the powerball, i keep telling my husband that.. i'll a dreamer hun

[Marilyn]

Haley, sounds like you're taking care of him and everything esle. Relax and enjoy!!!

Tink, so hope you get good news on your job!!!!

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

Haley, sounds like you're taking care of him and everything esle. Relax and enjoy!!!

Tink, so hope you get good news on your job!!!!

Marilyn i wish i knew how to relax... always on the go... i don't stop until i hit my bed...

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by HALEY

humm you want to work and i wish we had the money so i didn't have to work and i can stay home with my son, i always miss him when im hear at work and i am missing so much of life being here, it just stinks sometimes... when the sitter tells me he took two steps today, i just want to cry some days...

Haley, I know it's hard to leave them at home with a sitter, but someone told me that baby's first step or baby's first word is the first one that Mom sees or hears. I lived by that, and it made it easier for me to accept. The really important time for us was when we were together.

Our daughters stayed up a little later in the evenings also than children with stay at home moms, but I'd rather have the awake time with them, and let them sleep more with the sitter. It didn't seem to hurt either one of them, however, we didn't wake them up in the morning and take them to a sitter, the sitter came to us, your situation may be different.

They will love you not matter what, and the most important thing is what you are teaching them when you are with them, the example you are setting, supplemented by a quality sitter, who has the same or similiar values as your own. And don't feel too guilty. I'm sure you are a wonderful caring mom!!!!

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

Haley, I know it's hard to leave them at home with a sitter, but someone told me that baby's first step or baby's first word is the first one that Mom sees or hears. I lived by that, and it made it easier for me to accept. The really important time for us was when we were together.

Our daughters stayed up a little later in the evenings also than children with stay at home moms, but I'd rather have the awake time with them, and let them sleep more with the sitter. It didn't seem to hurt either one of them, however, we didn't wake them up in the morning and take them to a sitter, the sitter came to us, your situation may be different.

They will love you not matter what, and the most important thing is what you are teaching them when you are with them, the example you are setting, supplemented by a quality sitter, who has the same or similiar values as your own. And don't feel too guilty. I'm sure you are a wonderful caring mom!!!!

Thank you Marilyn, i am trying so hard to give that child the things that i didn't have growning up, i want a better life for him so bad. My parents had three kids and i was the youngest so i got all the handy-downs from my sister, and i don't want that from my child, he's going to wear NEW clothes, and have NEW toys, if i have to work two jobs to buy them for him, that hurt all those years.... i hardly got anything new. But back then my parents didn't have the money for all three of us it was hard and my dad did his best by working two jobs, and my mom took a low paying job on the weekends. it was hard.
But as for a baby sitter she lives right across the street from us, she is the best i couldn't of asked for a better baby sitter ever, i was very blessed when we moved there, Val and I became good friends and she loves Micah with all her heart, she is always buying that boy stuff, and on Fridays my mother in law comes over and watches him. which gives me a break on Fridays i don't have to wake up at 4 am to get him packed up and ready to go, he can sleep in if he wants to, and i can get some cleaning done in the morning before i leave for work. so everything worked out with the baby sitting Thank God.... i didn't want to put him in daycare, i heard to many bad stories about the daycare that is around my area.