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[HALEY]

Originally Posted by DianaB

I wasn't saying that YOU should let him cry. I was telling what I did with my daughter. I was always stricter than my husband when it came to the kids, but he compliments me now on how well they turned out. I know that it's really hard to let them cry.

If your baby is cutting teeth then Tylenol before bedtime is probably a good idea. Also making sure that he has cereal or something that will help him get a full tummy to sleep through the night. Keep up the oatmeal. Maybe he just needs to get used to a full tummy. Good luck!

I know Diana, im just one of those mothers that can't stand it when they cry, a new mommy. i go a running when i hear him, my girlfriend told me yesterday to get use to him sleeping in bed with me for the next 10 years, he, he,
but i'll try the tylenol for the pain tonight and the oatmeal also, hope this works.

[judy]

When Jessie was a baby, we were taught to let them cry for a good long while after checking them to see that they're okay, their diaper didn't need changing, etc.

We also only gave water at night, unless you were nursing. Things were very different then. We trained them to sleep all night.

I think they all grew up okay. It is hard to hear them cry, but they are better off if they have a good night's sleep and if Mommy does too. I do think I remember them having nightmares at about a year old. Night terrors are usually later on (at around 3 to 5) and those you do have to sit with the child for a while. They really need reassurance to learn to get through those.

A lot of family's are now just letting the kids sleep with them and not worrying about it. I can't see any harm in that, except for the lack of a sex life.

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by judy

When Jessie was a baby, we were taught to let them cry for a good long while after checking them to see that they're okay, their diaper didn't need changing, etc.

We also only gave water at night, unless you were nursing. Things were very different then. We trained them to sleep all night.

I think they all grew up okay. It is hard to hear them cry, but they are better off if they have a good night's sleep and if Mommy does too. I do think I remember them having nightmares at about a year old. Night terrors are usually later on (at around 3 to 5) and those you do have to sit with the child for a while. They really need reassurance to learn to get through those.

A lot of family's are now just letting the kids sleep with them and not worrying about it. I can't see any harm in that, except for the lack of a sex life.

My husband hours are picking up again, so i hardly see him anymore, and in the summer he travels alot so sex life what is that ????????
But the baby is doing a little better now, since i feed him his dinner around 4:30 -5:00 pm, and give him oatmeal and cheerio's around 6:30-7:00 and i try to keep him up to at least 7:30-8:00, but he got up again last night around 11:00 pm took a bottle and i changed him and he slept thru the night until 4:00 am which is wonderful. That's what time we get up for work.... so at least i got 5 hours of sleep last night.

[Janet]

I agree with Diana and Judy. Make sure there is nothing wrong, then let them learn to get themselves to sleep. It really is for their benefit. Maybe if you look at it this way, the crying won't bother you so bad.

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by Janet

I agree with Diana and Judy. Make sure there is nothing wrong, then let them learn to get themselves to sleep. It really is for their benefit. Maybe if you look at it this way, the crying won't bother you so bad.

i tried , couldn't do it, that little bugger stood up and grabbed his bed rail and started shaking it. like were the heck are you Mom i know your there !!!!
then i'm getting poked by hubby.. go get the kid..

[judy]

He's having tantrums if he's banging the crib. It's not a good idea for him to know that tantrums work. He'll end up paying the price for that through his life. As mothers, we think we're doing the right thing by tending to our babies with love and caring, which we are. The hardest part of raising a child is loving them enough to set boundaries for them. They can't do it by themselves.

Nobody ever found it easy to raise a child!

Originally Posted by judy

He's having tantrums if he's banging the crib. It's not a good idea for him to know that tantrums work. He'll end up paying the price for that through his life. As mothers, we think we're doing the right thing by tending to our babies with love and caring, which we are. The hardest part of raising a child is loving them enough to set boundaries for them. They can't do it by themselves.

Nobody ever found it easy to raise a child!

I totally agree here.. It is so much easier to give in and go pick them up than it is to let them cry it out... I had to do this several times before mine got the hint that the fits didn't work anymore... Best of luck girl! We are here for ya!

I had this problem with my oldest.. My X and I seperated for about 6 months when he was a baby. I made the mistake of letting him sleep with me since I was staying in a one bedroom house and I didn't want to sleep alone! LOL When my X and I got back together he would never go back to his bed!! I think it took me over a year or so to get him to go to bed when he was suppose to and stay in that bed alone! I know how you feel girl it was horrible!!! It will get better in time! Don't worry! I bet he is teething too. If he is around 1 especially he is probably getting those painful one year molars. (did I spell that right?)

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by mommaof4boys

I had this problem with my oldest.. My X and I seperated for about 6 months when he was a baby. I made the mistake of letting him sleep with me since I was staying in a one bedroom house and I didn't want to sleep alone! LOL When my X and I got back together he would never go back to his bed!! I think it took me over a year or so to get him to go to bed when he was suppose to and stay in that bed alone! I know how you feel girl it was horrible!!! It will get better in time! Don't worry! I bet he is teething too. If he is around 1 especially he is probably getting those painful one year molars. (did I spell that right?)

It is his teeth, i know my babies crys, and those are crys of pain. i been feeding him extra at night and giving him motrin now like my mom told me, and he did sleep last night til 4 am,
but i still have to listen to my mom which raised 3 kids, she always told me an infant crys for a reason, she never let none of us cry and we all turned out fine.
so if he wants to sleep with us, i'm going to let him, i love that boy, and yes, he will be spoiled, but to a point, he's going to know there are rules in life and if he breaks them he will be punished. I'm a sucker for tears, but not for a misbehaved child especially out in public, i will not put up with that..
My mom was a softy to, but in our house rules were rules. and if you broke them you got beat first and then grounded.. but you can't do that today....
i still remember my mom grabbing a wooden spoon, and all three of us would run,
even if you didn't do anything, you didn't know which child she was coming after. he- he...