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[pearl]

wish they made electronic doors and windows like doggie doors, only unlocked by those wearing a collar. and you don't give the kid a collar.

[pope1982]

I don't disagree with spankings, but I think at the age she is at, and with her acting out, it would only exacerbate the situation and backfire possibly make more trouble for you.

What are the consequences when she waltzes in the door?

Let her think she has accomplished sneaking out, play bad cop... do a stake out. Follow her, embarrass the hell out of her when you drag her young, rebellious behind home. 15 is far to young and ignorant these days trying to pass as grown! Maybe 50 years ago...

Even go as far as to tell her you are driving her to the police station because you are not living like this.

Take everything from her room but the bare essentials. No tv, no music, no phone, no boy. Even go so far as to take away her favorite clothes or shoes if you have to. Make her get a job and increase responsibilities. Make your home a cozy little boot camp

I had a sister who acted out and ran away. I had to sit through family counseling a lot. Some of which she didn't even show up for! I know how frustrating it can be. Hang in there.

I forgot to add, that if you work her really hard........... scrubbing walls and baseboards, mopping floors dusting the attic........she might be to tired to get uo in the night!

[goofywife]

I would never pretend to know the right answer. We went through this with my daughter.

The situation grew as she got older. We decided to take the tough love approach and stuck to our rules for the house. We turned it over to God. We raised her right, brought her up to believe in Jesus. That makes her one of his.

She ended up running away. We didn't have any contact with her for several years, then one day it happened we spoke and worked on our relationship.

Now years later, I have a daughter back, she gave me 2 wonderful grandchildren. When she speaks to teenagers, she tells them, she doesn't know why she did what she did, she tells them she had a great childhood and that they should appreciate thier parents and everything they do for them.

I don't think there is any one answer, each situation and child is different. Good luck.