So Mad!

[Tink]

I very much agree with Janet and Marilyn. You have every right to say no.
Life is WAY to short to spend your time doing things that go against your grain. Since she's not the type to appreciate it, why bother? If you can make yourself and your own family happy you've succeeded... don't feel you have to tend to the whole world.

If they don't like it, tell them Janet, Marilyn and Tink made you do it! lol They can tak it up with us.

[Gina]

Tink ! lol I will...

Seriously I would stay away from them no sweat, but its my dam husband. He fights with me and tries to give me the guilt trip . I only have one brother.. lalalala yeah but this brother don't respect YOU or YOUR family. I am tired of fighting with him, I told him they can come but he is cooking and I am NOT! I will stick to my guns.....


Ladies hugs!

[judy]

Originally Posted by Tink

I very much agree with Janet and Marilyn. You have every right to say no.
Life is WAY to short to spend your time doing things that go against your grain. Since she's not the type to appreciate it, why bother? If you can make yourself and your own family happy you've succeeded... don't feel you have to tend to the whole world.

If they don't like it, tell them Janet, Marilyn and Tink made you do it! lol They can tak it up with us.

Gina, you can add my name to the "blame us' group. Honestly, if it were me, I would nicely tell my brother the truth and never allow her in my house. I also agree that toxic people are not allowed in my environment.
Actually, I would write a letter to my brother and mail it to him at work or somewhere where she can't see it. I find that when people have time to digest things alone, like when reading a letter, it usually makes for a calmer response.

[Janet]

I like your letter idea too Judy.

Or we can all meet her husband in an alley and make him quit trying to make Gina feel guilty......come here little boy....want some candy??? SMACK!

[Gina]

Originally Posted by judy

Gina, you can add my name to the "blame us' group. Honestly, if it were me, I would nicely tell my brother the truth and never allow her in my house. I also agree that toxic people are not allowed in my environment.
Actually, I would write a letter to my brother and mail it to him at work or somewhere where she can't see it. I find that when people have time to digest things alone, like when reading a letter, it usually makes for a calmer response.

Judy it's his brother not mine, and he knows his wife I think he hates her too.. But he stays because of his kids...Then I have the FIL who defends his other son, like my poor son he has to put up with that.. BULL CRAP! he may have to put up with that, BUT I DON'T

Janet yeahhhhhhhhhh sounds good to me... I'm peeing my pants here!! lol

At least I got a few laughs thanks ladies!

[katcarasella]

Gina,
You don't have to put up with her, she's not worth all this aggravation.
I would tell Hubby if they're coming over, you and the kids are going out to eat, and then I'd follow through. If hubby tries to make you feel guilty, tell him to get his priorities straight.
Been there, done this, I don't envy you at all. I'm getting mad just reading about it. Gina, life is much to short to waste your time & energy on this woman, she's not worth your time. Kathy

[DianaB]

Sorry, that I missed posting on this earlier, Gina. After all that you've been through lately I would have refused to have them over. You shouldn't have to clean and cook when you just had surgery and are still getting over it. Sometimes you gotta' take care of yourself. You don't have to have this woman in your home. After all it is "your" home!!!

[Gina]

Thank You ladies for your support. My husband has agreeded to clean and cook yayaya. He said this is it, he will not ask me to invite his brother and wife again, that I am right in feeling the way that I do.. I invited another couple who just had a baby to . This way I don't have to sit and talk to my SIL... I will let you know how it turns out.

[judy]

OKAY - he's a keeper! Sounds like dh is a good guy.