Stressed

Do you have a local "Area on Aging"? We have that where I live, and they've been a help dealing with my mom. She is a widow, lives alone, and is starting to have health problems. If your dad is considered low income, they might be able to have someone come out to the house a few times a week and help with light housekeeping, etc.

Another thing to check into is if there is low income housing available for senior citizens. Where I live, there are several apartments that are exclusively for seniors and the rent is based on income. Either way, your dad could keep some of his independence, and you could keep your sanity!

As far as the house-is it in your dad's name alone? If so, it is up to him, not your brother, what happens to it. You might want to consider having a power of attorney drawn up in case something would happen to your dad. (actually, a will, a living will, AND a power of attorney) Your dad may actually HAVE to sell the house if he needs money.

And last-if your brother wants the house that bad-let him buy it. Notice I said BUY it! NOT a gift! Or at least, buy out your share, if your dad wants the money to go to you kids. I don't know anything about your dad's situation, but he may need the money from the sale of his house for medical care, etc, down the road.