What a jerk!!!!!!!

[RLC12345678]

Don't bitch about it....just teach him a lesson. I think on the nights that he isn't busy, you should spend those doing something you enjoy so he has to sit at home alone. See how he likes it.

[Cribal]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Don't bitch about it....just teach him a lesson. I think on the nights that he isn't busy, you should spend those doing something you enjoy so he has to sit at home alone. See how he likes it.

That's what I normally do but we're on such a tight budget that I really can't right now if I wanna be able to pay my bills. Like that's why I just called up my friend adn we went out on the boat drinking. I'm all about getting payback and showing him what it feels like but I'm really getting tired of doindg the whole spiteful thing. (I admit I am VERY spiteful)

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Cribal

That's what I normally do but we're on such a tight budget that I really can't right now if I wanna be able to pay my bills. Like that's why I just called up my friend adn we went out on the boat drinking. I'm all about getting payback and showing him what it feels like but I'm really getting tired of doindg the whole spiteful thing. (I admit I am VERY spiteful)

You don't have to spend any money. Just go to a friend's house or something. But don't tell hubby where you're going. Tell him you're going "out."

[Cribal]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

You don't have to spend any money. Just go to a friend's house or something. But don't tell hubby where you're going. Tell him you're going "out."

Yea, maybe that's what I need to do tomorrow night. I don't want to do it tonight b/c the pups would be left alone for too long. I'll do it tomorrow when he's going to be at home and he can stay with the dogs.

Well, it's almost 5:00 and I'm gonna start locking the office to go home. I don't even want to go home and see him. I guess I'll just go in a get a beer and sit at the computer and come back to here and bitch some more....LOL

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Cribal

Yea, maybe that's what I need to do tomorrow night. I don't want to do it tonight b/c the pups would be left alone for too long. I'll do it tomorrow when he's going to be at home and he can stay with the dogs.

Well, it's almost 5:00 and I'm gonna start locking the office to go home. I don't even want to go home and see him. I guess I'll just go in a get a beer and sit at the computer and come back to here and bitch some more....LOL

We'll be here. I don't think any of us have bowling or football tonight.

[Cribal]

Originally Posted by rivermom

We'll be here. I don't think any of us have bowling or football tonight.

So now here I am sitting here waiting for his ass to leave. I stopped and rented me a movie to watch. I guess it's me, a movie and some beer tonight.

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Cribal

So now here I am sitting here waiting for his ass to leave. I stopped and rented me a movie to watch. I guess it's me, a movie and some beer tonight.

Boye! You got home quick.

[Ponyup]

I'd give it time. The one year anniversary thing would of really pissed me off because it was a broken promise he made plans & then cancelled, bad move. However, his bowling & hunting are probably habits he's had forever & are hard to change. The first year of marriage is really tough & the 2nd isn't a whole lot better. I would just continue to be honest with him about how you feel. Make sure you don't place blame. It will take him a while to learn to take your feeling into account when he makes plans. There is an adjustment period. It's not that he doesn't love you or what to spend time with you it's just that he's used to a certain routine & things like that take time to change.

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

I'd give it time. The one year anniversary thing would of really pissed me off because it was a broken promise he made plans & then cancelled, bad move. However, his bowling & hunting are probably habits he's had forever & are hard to change. The first year of marriage is really tough & the 2nd isn't a whole lot better. I would just continue to be honest with him about how you feel. Make sure you don't place blame. It will take him a while to learn to take your feeling into account when he makes plans. There is an adjustment period. It's not that he doesn't love you or what to spend time with you it's just that he's used to a certain routine & things like that take time to change.

Great advise Ponyup !!!

[Cribal]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

I'd give it time. The one year anniversary thing would of really pissed me off because it was a broken promise he made plans & then cancelled, bad move. However, his bowling & hunting are probably habits he's had forever & are hard to change. The first year of marriage is really tough & the 2nd isn't a whole lot better. I would just continue to be honest with him about how you feel. Make sure you don't place blame. It will take him a while to learn to take your feeling into account when he makes plans. There is an adjustment period. It's not that he doesn't love you or what to spend time with you it's just that he's used to a certain routine & things like that take time to change.

Yea I don't think it's that he doesn't love me or anything but I just don't like living like this. I don't feel like I come first in anything in his life. His hunting or fishing or golfing or bowling or football or all of that s*** always comes b4 my feelings. By no means have I said that he couldn't do any of these things, all I ask is that he limit it a little so that we have time together but no matter how much I ask he just doesn't seem to care..... It would be different if he were like this when we were dating or engaged but he was ALL about me and doing things with me b4 we got married. I kinda feel like he knows he has me so he doesn't have to work at anything or spend any time with me anymore. I don't know if it pisses me off more or it it hurts my feelings more.