I'm having a pity party!!

[Janet]

Originally Posted by katcarasella

Don't feel bad, I got you a purse today to cheer you up!!Attachment 3037

I just peed my freak'n pants thank you very much!!!! Be back in a minute

[Tink]

Janet, you're right... it's important to have friends you can get together with. As you see by the responses here, I think there are a lot of women our age who feel as we do. We've spent so much time raising our families and working that we've lost touch... and it's hard to take that first step to regain those relationships. BUT I've found that when I call someone out of the blue and say "HI, I've been thinking about you and wondered if you have some free time to get together" People are usually very happy to be remembered and invited. It just takes working up the courage to make that first call. Wouldn't you LOVE to get a call like that? Others do too!

I have Londa... a very dear lady I grew up with and who is like a sister to me. I'd be lost without her! We rrely see each other because she works during the week, and is very active with her large family during her free time. But we still sneak in phone calls when we can just because we are determined to maintain our friendship. Now that the weather is improving, she walks during her breaks at work and will occasionally call me on her cell phone to talk as she walks. LOL It's an 8 minute phone call, but it means a lot to both of us since sometimes that's the best we can do.

[Shada]

I am so fortunate to have good friends.
During the winter months I pretty much hibernate like an old bear.

During good weather!!! I took up kayaking this past summer!!! Loads of fun and we have about 6-8 of us that try to get out every Sunday. We pack a lunch and make a day out of it.

Then we try to get together at least twice a month for dinner and chat.
Talk on the phone often.

I would be lost without them.
I am not close with my sisters.. I call my friends my heart sisters.
Love my mom dearly, see her weekly, talk often, and have a very special brother who is more like my best friend. My brother and I were not raised together, same father, different mother.
Maybe that is why we are so close now in our adult life.

Plus I have the internet and you guys!!
Very important piece of my life.

You all may not hear from me often, but I am here daily for my 'fix'.

This is such a great forum!!!

Thank you all for sharing a bit of your life!!

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Janet

Please don't feel bad for me, I just need to get out and make some friends. I have LynneB who I love to pieces, but she works and has her husband and furkids, and Linda (2tiredmom) up and moved 2 hours away. It would just be nice to pick up the phone once in awhile and say hey, "want to run to town for lunch?" You know.

Have you thought about calling a friend that works and offer to take her out for lunch. I did that a few times and really enjoyed it, but I haven't done it for awhile. I would call someone different each week and just have some one-on-one time with them.

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by DianaB

Have you thought about calling a friend that works and offer to take her out for lunch. I did that a few times and really enjoyed it, but I haven't done it for awhile. I would call someone different each week and just have some one-on-one time with them.

That's a great idea, Diana. I've had dear friends tell me that they had to visit the town where I work for some obsure reason during the week and thought about calling but they know I am always busy at work and that I go out of town a lot. I tell them they should call or stop by, it might be a day when I'm free, and I we could go to lunch or something. They always say that next time they will. One friend did call me for lunch one day and we had a really nice time. Never know till you ask!!

[judy]

I find myself in the same boat a lot. I love my own space, and my friends understand me. They've learned that I'm not always going to jump at the chance for lunch, and dinner and a movie is just too much time together. They also kniow I love them dearly, and will be there for them if they need me.

What happens sometimes though is that I find that I have backed myself into my own corner! I'll get lonesome and nobody is around. I have to accept tne fact that they have learned not to count on me for once a week lunch., etc., but then I have to pay the price whenI need some company and they've made other plans.

Ah well...I guess I'm used to myself.

[Chandra Amaya]

I have my kids, my husband, my mom and my siblings. i have recently made a friend who is a mother with no family other than her son, but yes I wish quite often that i had friends to go out shopping or to lunch with. I do not have the money to do either so I guess not having friends to ask is a blessing.

[katcarasella]

People have finally stopped asking me to go out, I always say no. I just like staying home with Mag and Bay. I like to do what I want, when I want to, and I figure at this point in my life I should do just that. I'm with you Judy, I love my own space, half the time I don't even answer the phone if I don't feel like chatting. Maybe that'll change later, we'll see.

[Janet]

I feel the same as Judy and Kat. I love my own space. There are just times that I would like some company, and not just any company. I don't get asked out often, but a lot of the time I don't want to go. More often than not, I'm glad I went and had a great time, but the idea of going, just isn't something I want to think about.

[Emmsmom]

Originally Posted by Tink

Janet, you're right... it's important to have friends you can get together with. As you see by the responses here, I think there are a lot of women our age who feel as we do. We've spent so much time raising our families and working that we've lost touch... and it's hard to take that first step to regain those relationships. BUT I've found that when I call someone out of the blue and say "HI, I've been thinking about you and wondered if you have some free time to get together" People are usually very happy to be remembered and invited. It just takes working up the courage to make that first call. Wouldn't you LOVE to get a call like that? Others do too!

Are you kidding me!! "Our Age" LOL


I am only 36 and I feel this way already! I would give anything to have some friends to go out with. We have only been here since 2004 and I have made some "friends" if thats what you want to call them. Casual friends is more like it. I still haven't met anyone that I am comfortable going shopping with and so on. Oh well maybe one day.

[janc]

Originally Posted by Janet

I'm here alone this weekend and enjoying it I might add. BUT....I thought it would be nice to go out to eat and I honestly don't have any friends that live close to ask to go with me. That realization made me sad for a moment or two.

Even my family is gone...my older brother and his wife are on their way back from Florida with Mom and I really don't have any friends that I do anything with. I mean, they are people I speak with, but as for friends, confidants..I don't have any.

I do have Lynne and all of you, but no one that lives close. I guess I can see what kind of life I'll have if I don't get out there more...huh? Kind of scary to think I may be totally alone someday.

Do any of you worry about this at all? Or are you quite social and go do things with friends often?

I was in that position till we moved to Tn. We volunteer a lot here, attend a very active small church, know most of our neighbors, and often go to dinner with them. We're also retired so have more time to do things with others. People here are the friendliest of any place I've lived.

[Chandra Amaya]

Originally Posted by Emmsmom

Are you kidding me!! "Our Age" LOL


I am only 36 and I feel this way already! I would give anything to have some friends to go out with. We have only been here since 2004 and I have made some "friends" if thats what you want to call them. Casual friends is more like it. I still haven't met anyone that I am comfortable going shopping with and so on. Oh well maybe one day.

I'm in Tennessee. maybe we should get together.