Not really sure how to go about this

teri88 · 05-12-2008, 07:02 AM

Janet has a good point, make the exercise a couples thing and really stick to it. You don't have to tell your husband he's gained weight, believe me....he knows! I don't know how old your baby is, but it's not unusual to lose your sex drive after having a baby....you are tired and focused on the child. You need to turn your focus back on your relationship. You married this man, so you must have loved him at some point. Try reminding yourself why you fell in love in the first place. Every day find something positive to say to him. It might feel forced inthe begining but you'll be surprised how quickly it will become a habit. If you fell in love with him once, you can do it again. You really can! Good luck!

toodles · 05-12-2008, 07:21 AM

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Originally Posted by teri88

Janet has a good point, make the exercise a couples thing and really stick to it. You don't have to tell your husband he's gained weight, believe me....he knows! I don't know how old your baby is, but it's not unusual to lose your sex drive after having a baby....you are tired and focused on the child. You need to turn your focus back on your relationship. You married this man, so you must have loved him at some point. Try reminding yourself why you fell in love in the first place. Every day find something positive to say to him. It might feel forced inthe begining but you'll be surprised how quickly it will become a habit. If you fell in love with him once, you can do it again. You really can! Good luck!

thank you

i have not had the baby yet...I am 6 months pregnant right now

teri88 · 05-12-2008, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by toodles

thank you

i have not had the baby yet...I am 6 months pregnant right now

oh girl, one word: HORMONES! You are going through so many changes, physically, emotionally, mentally. No wonder you are struggling. You'll be ok, just be patient and know that it gets better. It really does!

judy · 05-12-2008, 02:25 PM

I agree - it probably is mostly hormonal. But, you might make a doctor's appointment for him for a check up. I'm sure the doctor will tell him that he has to lose weight. Then, you can blame his health and the doctor!

You can tell him that he's breathing funny when he sleeps, or some story like that as a reason for a check up.

05-12-2008, 07:02 AM	#1
teri88 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: New Jersey Posts: 808	Janet has a good point, make the exercise a couples thing and really stick to it. You don't have to tell your husband he's gained weight, believe me....he knows! I don't know how old your baby is, but it's not unusual to lose your sex drive after having a baby....you are tired and focused on the child. You need to turn your focus back on your relationship. You married this man, so you must have loved him at some point. Try reminding yourself why you fell in love in the first place. Every day find something positive to say to him. It might feel forced inthe begining but you'll be surprised how quickly it will become a habit. If you fell in love with him once, you can do it again. You really can! Good luck! __________________ TERI Of course I'm in shape. Isn't round a shape?

05-12-2008, 02:25 PM	#4
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	I agree - it probably is mostly hormonal. But, you might make a doctor's appointment for him for a check up. I'm sure the doctor will tell him that he has to lose weight. Then, you can blame his health and the doctor! You can tell him that he's breathing funny when he sleeps, or some story like that as a reason for a check up. __________________ *Judy*

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