Anybody else love antiqueing?

[Forgivenmom5]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

Hubby thinks I need more to do, so antiquing won't be on my list for a while. Now he thinks I need to patent an idea he has. I told him to do it, and he said I'm the engineer, not him. He also wants me to start up a company selling soap to the chemical plants. Of course, I can't quit my current job until the new company is up and running. He thinks with all the great contacts I have, I'm passing up a huge opportunity if I don't do it. It doesn't matter that I know nothing about the kind of products they use, or how they use them. Another guy is making a fortune doing it, so I should be able to do it too. Sometimes, I just don't understand. Why me??? I've never been able to do enough for the people around me. My parents expected more, my husband expects more. They make me feel like such a failure sometimes. NO matter how hard I try, it's never enough for them.

I am so sorry things are happening this way marilyn. I also feel inadequate in a lot of ways. I guess we will just have to take one day at a time and do our best. Since my health scare I am trying to take the time to cut back and enjoy life and not worry so much. Life is just too precious.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

Hubby thinks I need more to do, so antiquing won't be on my list for a while. Now he thinks I need to patent an idea he has. I told him to do it, and he said I'm the engineer, not him. He also wants me to start up a company selling soap to the chemical plants. Of course, I can't quit my current job until the new company is up and running. He thinks with all the great contacts I have, I'm passing up a huge opportunity if I don't do it. It doesn't matter that I know nothing about the kind of products they use, or how they use them. Another guy is making a fortune doing it, so I should be able to do it too. Sometimes, I just don't understand. Why me??? I've never been able to do enough for the people around me. My parents expected more, my husband expects more. They make me feel like such a failure sometimes. NO matter how hard I try, it's never enough for them.

Marilyn, sometimes we have to learn how to use the word "NO". My husband likes to push too and sometimes I have to just say "I don't have any time to do that". Lately he's given me some things to do for him, plus I'm trying to completely re-do my flower bed and do the housework, plus drive the tractor when he needs help. I'm already falling behind and that's why I haven't been on too much in the last few days. Then he reminded me that his brother's bookkeeping needs to be done. (His brother is going through a divorce and taxes haven't been filed for a few years and they have business accounts that need to be done too. His brother has time to come over and work on it but doesn't.) I let my husband know that I have plenty on my plate right now and getting his brother's books done wasn't a possiblity right now.

You're not a failure in any way, Marilyn!!! Right now you just have too many things going on and you don't need anymore added to it. Take care of yourself and just say "No".

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by Janet

That is sad Marilyn that you're just too busy to enjoy life. What is the motivation behind wanting you to do more and to start a company?

Money, what else!!?? Thank you Janet, Diana and Debbie for the encouragement. I say no to his ideas a lot of the time, but it always comes back. Someday, I'll hear...."If you'd only patented that idea"....or "If you'd only started that company...."

Shada, I am so very sorry about hyjacking your thread. We need to start another thread about antiquing for you. Either that or get this one back on track.

Hey everyone, share your experiences antiquing and get this back on track for Shada, okay???!!!!

[judy]

Marilyn,

I'm still waiting for a copy of a book that you recommended - "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life."

Now who was it that recommended it? Oh yes! It was you!

Maybe you should dig up your copy?

You're such a wonderful woman. You're beautiful, bright, successful, more than competent, a great wife and mother. You really don't need to allow anyone else to define you.