May lose job!!!

[Janet]

You bet, if it hadn't been for everyone here I think I would have lost my mind. I cried and shook so bad over this. It really got to me and I was so afraid of losing my job. But the Assist. Princ. and Trans. Dir. are backing me up and it looks like everything is going to be just fine. Not only did her son lie to her, but she told lies and half-truths to the Asst. Princ. I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree... I really appreciated all the support.

[Marilyn]

Well, I just read this thread, so glad this is all working out & that you have such a wonderful support group!! Hang in there, things will work out!!!

I don't think you were out of line at all. What you did was appropriate and I'm sure that girl and her parents appreciated it. That mother had no right to call you at home, period. She needed to address this through the school/your supervisor.

Hang in there and stick to your guns.

[Emmsmom]

wow! I am glad things worked out ok. You were not the one who was wrong here. She had no business calling you at all in my opinion. Way to go!!!

[khardy57]

I just read about what happened and I'm so glad things are looking better. Sounds like she's a troublemaker with a capital "B"!!

[Janet]

Well, it looks like I'm stuck with her and her sons (nobody else will take them). This is the email exchanged yesterday between myself and the Assist. Principal. I took the names out even though I'm sure you don't know them:

First one from me:

Good morning ------,

I just wanted to let you know that I did not receive a phone call telling me the -----boys were not riding this morning like ---------- told you she would. I stopped, honked and no one came out, so I went on. I have not heard as of yet (9:50 a.m., Tues.) if they will be riding a different bus. Unless she calls to tell me the boys need a ride in the morning, I will not go by their house, if that is alright with you. It takes me a little over 3 miles out of my way to pick them up.

Thanks again,

Janet
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From Assist. Principal:

Janet,

Mr.---- and I talked this morning about the bus situation. He and I both feel that you need to rectify the situation that occurred on the telephone conversation with Mrs.---- . That step needs to be done right away—call her if possible. If she won’t talk to you, then write a letter and give me a copy of it. The boys will remain on your route. I have sent Mrs. ---- an email requesting that she call you if the boys aren’t riding. However, if she doesn’t call, you are to go by the house anyway. If they don’t come out, you are still to go by the house every day unless she has called..-------
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My reply:

------,
I will do as you request and go by their house whether she calls or not. I will send her an apology in an e-mail so that I do not have to endure her wrath again, I'm sorry, but that is the best I can do as far as an apology. I will send you a copy of what I send to her. I am disappointed that they will remain on the my route, but will hold no grudge against Collin. He can be a great kid, just not with his own peers. Thank you very much for everything, I really appreciate it.

Janet
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This is the apology I sent to the mother:

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I would like to take this time to apologize for what you heard Sunday night on the phone. After I told you not to bring my husband into this, I heard a "click" and thought you had hung up on me as I had hung up on you earlier. I never meant for you to hear me say the "B" word, I truly thought I was just saying it to my husband in the privacy of our home. So, with that said, I apologize.

I don't believe any further communication is necessary concerning this matter. If you do feel the need to reply, please be aware that any and all correspondence will be saved for future reference if and when there is ever a need.

A phone call is still needed if the boys will not be riding. I will inform the office if no contact is made. I do understand that they do not ride on Thursday mornings, so a call is not needed for that day. If they start riding again on Thursday mornings let me know.

Thank you,
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Granted, it's not the most sincere apology, but I did what was requested of me. Did you notice I did NOT apologize for calling her a "B", just that she heard it...

[RLC12345678]

Janet, you could not have written a better apology letter!!!!!!!! It was great. I am so glad that you didn't apologize for calling her a "B" but just apologized that she heard you call her that. Has the principal said anything to you about your apology letter? I'm glad that everything has worked out. You are right....the apple does not fall far from the tree. You should just feel sorry for them, kill them with kindess, and go on with your merry way. You should feel especially sorry for that boy. He is obviously not being brought up in a good home environment. Maybe you could talk to him personally. You have to potential to have a major impact on him, and in a good and positive way. He obviously needs some sort of positive guidance from someone, as it is quite obvious he is not getting it from home.