May lose job!!!

[khardy57]

I just read about what happened and I'm so glad things are looking better. Sounds like she's a troublemaker with a capital "B"!!

[Janet]

Well, it looks like I'm stuck with her and her sons (nobody else will take them). This is the email exchanged yesterday between myself and the Assist. Principal. I took the names out even though I'm sure you don't know them:

First one from me:

Good morning ------,

I just wanted to let you know that I did not receive a phone call telling me the -----boys were not riding this morning like ---------- told you she would. I stopped, honked and no one came out, so I went on. I have not heard as of yet (9:50 a.m., Tues.) if they will be riding a different bus. Unless she calls to tell me the boys need a ride in the morning, I will not go by their house, if that is alright with you. It takes me a little over 3 miles out of my way to pick them up.

Thanks again,

Janet
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From Assist. Principal:

Janet,

Mr.---- and I talked this morning about the bus situation. He and I both feel that you need to rectify the situation that occurred on the telephone conversation with Mrs.---- . That step needs to be done right away—call her if possible. If she won’t talk to you, then write a letter and give me a copy of it. The boys will remain on your route. I have sent Mrs. ---- an email requesting that she call you if the boys aren’t riding. However, if she doesn’t call, you are to go by the house anyway. If they don’t come out, you are still to go by the house every day unless she has called..-------
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My reply:

------,
I will do as you request and go by their house whether she calls or not. I will send her an apology in an e-mail so that I do not have to endure her wrath again, I'm sorry, but that is the best I can do as far as an apology. I will send you a copy of what I send to her. I am disappointed that they will remain on the my route, but will hold no grudge against Collin. He can be a great kid, just not with his own peers. Thank you very much for everything, I really appreciate it.

Janet
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This is the apology I sent to the mother:

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I would like to take this time to apologize for what you heard Sunday night on the phone. After I told you not to bring my husband into this, I heard a "click" and thought you had hung up on me as I had hung up on you earlier. I never meant for you to hear me say the "B" word, I truly thought I was just saying it to my husband in the privacy of our home. So, with that said, I apologize.

I don't believe any further communication is necessary concerning this matter. If you do feel the need to reply, please be aware that any and all correspondence will be saved for future reference if and when there is ever a need.

A phone call is still needed if the boys will not be riding. I will inform the office if no contact is made. I do understand that they do not ride on Thursday mornings, so a call is not needed for that day. If they start riding again on Thursday mornings let me know.

Thank you,
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Granted, it's not the most sincere apology, but I did what was requested of me. Did you notice I did NOT apologize for calling her a "B", just that she heard it...

[RLC12345678]

Janet, you could not have written a better apology letter!!!!!!!! It was great. I am so glad that you didn't apologize for calling her a "B" but just apologized that she heard you call her that. Has the principal said anything to you about your apology letter? I'm glad that everything has worked out. You are right....the apple does not fall far from the tree. You should just feel sorry for them, kill them with kindess, and go on with your merry way. You should feel especially sorry for that boy. He is obviously not being brought up in a good home environment. Maybe you could talk to him personally. You have to potential to have a major impact on him, and in a good and positive way. He obviously needs some sort of positive guidance from someone, as it is quite obvious he is not getting it from home.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Janet, you could not have written a better apology letter!!!!!!!! It was great. I am so glad that you didn't apologize for calling her a "B" but just apologized that she heard you call her that. Has the principal said anything to you about your apology letter? I'm glad that everything has worked out. You are right....the apple does not fall far from the tree. You should just feel sorry for them, kill them with kindess, and go on with your merry way. You should feel especially sorry for that boy. He is obviously not being brought up in a good home environment. Maybe you could talk to him personally. You have to potential to have a major impact on him, and in a good and positive way. He obviously needs some sort of positive guidance from someone, as it is quite obvious he is not getting it from home.

Thanks...I have not heard from the A. P. as of yet. I hope she doesn't scold me. I do realize I could have made it a better apology, but in her letter to the A.P. she told her she called to tell me the boys would not be riding. That was all I needed to know. The second phone call when the "B" word was heard, was harassing and she shouldn't have called me back.

I really don't have to have any contact with the parents unless there is another discipline problem. When he got on the bus this morning, he asked where he was suppose to sit (probably thinking his mom got him out of his punishment) and I told him "in the front seat." He wasn't happy, but he's going to have to sit there for at least 2 weeks.

He's in the 9th grade and I've had him since he was in the 3rd. I've tried everything with him (and his mother knows and has thanked me in the past), but it does no good. I will not hold a grudge against him, and will greet him as I do all the others when they board the bus and wish him a good evening when he gets off. But I think I will just have to let things be until he acts up again. It really is a vivious cycle. He is just like his mother, a lot!!! They have everything, want everything and think they know all and can do no wrong.

[Mandy]

WOW hats off to you Janet, you did right by apologizing to that woman, and good for you for not saying "sorry" for calling her a "B"
You did what was asked of you, so no one can point fingers at you!

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Mandy

WOW hats off to you Janet, you did right by apologizing to that woman, and good for you for not saying "sorry" for calling her a "B"
You did what was asked of you, so no one can point fingers at you!

I sure hope you're right. This has been real nerve wrecking for me. I just hate conflict. It ties me all up in knots, ya know. I'll just keep doing the best job I can and hope it is appreciated. What more can I ask for, really?

[Marilyn]

Janet, Here's a scripture for you:

Proverbs 25:21-23 (New King James Version)

21 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat;
And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink;
22 For so you will heap coals of fire on his head,
And the LORD will reward you.
23 The north wind brings forth rain,
And a backbiting tongue an angry countenance.

Hang in there girl, and heap on those coals.