I'm deeply hurt......

[Dobie]

I know it will probably sound cliche, but it's the truth - by not recognizing what a wonderful person you are, and opening her heart to you, she is the one who is losing out - not you.

Keep your chin up!

[judy]

I'm so sorry that you're hurt Diana. I can't understand her reaction to you. I think I have to agree with Gina. They're jealous of you. You and your dh have something special between you, your children are wonderful, and you are so good
and enjoy life so much. Your strong faith is also something they must envy.

I would just love to have you in my family! I would be so proud!

Life is too short and too sweet to waste your time on people like them!

[teri88]

Oh Diana, I know that really hurts! I can't say anything that will make it hurt less, I'm so sorry you are going through this. And when you see her hurt your children...well, I know the mama bear in you wants to ring her neck!

My BIL who has been in the family as long as I have said some very hateful things at my 40th birthday party. It just shattered me. It was 9 years ago and it still hurts. I decided to comepletly ignore him at every family party. I would just look him in the face and walk away. The problem was every time I did that it brought the anger back inside of me. I finally realized that he just wasn't worth it. I let go of the anger, I'm civil to him if I have to see him. It's helped me alot because I don't waste my energy on hating him anymore. Don't let her have that much power over you, she's not worth it. You are a wonderfull person and you know what? It's her loss!

[HALEY]

Diana,
I know when a family member passes in my family, there belongings go to the immediate family members sons/ daughers, i never heard of Grandchildren getting anything, that's a new one to me, but everyone is different. Then again if you think about it most of the stuff is junk anyways...

As for the remark your mother in law made, i think that was way out of line. I don't blame you for not going over there anymore, All of my husband's family members are like that, there all off my lists for Christmas cards, Birthday invitations, etc. I just pertend they don't exist, life is much happier to us...
I posted a couple of things my monster in law did to me, i need not say anymore, your better off with out them. I know i am..
Just remember one thing what comes around goes around, i remember my Grandmother on my dad's side, she had nothing to do with us, her own Grandchildren cause she didn't like my mother, and guess who got stuck taking care of her when she was dying, my sister did cause she owns a personal care home... so believe me it comes around...

[goofywife]

Diana,

I am so sorry, that was a very hurtful thing to say. We rarely have any contact with my DH family. They still hold it against him for moving to OK from NJ. We have been married for 15 years and not one person in his family has ever come to visit us. We have gone back several times. The last time we said to ourselves we are done. We will not go back up there again.

When my DH was a small boy (his mother and father divorced), his father remarried and when his new wife was due to have a baby, he pulled my DH aside and told him that he (my FIL) had a new family now and could not spend time with him.

People can be mean to thier own family. Some day, when (if) they stand before God, he will have something to say about it.

All you can do is move on and don't waste you time on things/people that are hurtful.

You are a wonderful person, don't believe what anyone else says. It is thier loss!

Michelle