They'll be home today!!!!!!!

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Gina

Marilyn glad to hear that the newylweds are back from their honeymoon. I bet you can't wait to hear all about it I am sure that they had a great time.

I can understand about the way that your feeling about them living 5 min away from in-laws and two hrs. from you. That is normal to feel a little jealously. But remember Marilyn you are her mother and no matter what she will always have that special relationship with you. Her in laws may be wonderful, and hopefully they treat her like a daughter for you would want that being she is living a distance from you. In time I am sure that you will be living closer to each other.

So please be happy and you will soon hear everything detail of the honeymoon.. oh well not every detail...lol and you will have your daughter back plus a son.

PS sorry about the fish.

I agree with Gina, Marilyn. You have to learn to "share" your daughter with the other family. Be happy for the times that they have together and encouraging. (Even though sometimes it's really, really hard to do.) If you develop a good relationship with his mother she'll be more willing to cooperate with you on holidays and your own gatherings. It's definitely give and take!

[Janet]

Glad they made it back and had a great time. And remember that saying....a daughter is a daughter all of her life, but a son is a son till he takes a wife. From where I sit...you have it made. You have been close to your daughter and I'm sure it will remain the same.

[Marilyn]

Oh, ladies, I know that we will remain close, and I do sincerely hope she has a wonderful relationship with her inlaws. Her father-in-law is especially sweet to her & I can see that he truly cares. I was just being honest with my dear friends here on 4WT. Part of me is jealous. I can't help it, and I think it's best to express those feelings with my closest friends and not so much with my daughter. She did call and talk for a bit today. I know it's their first full day back from their honeymoon, and they have lots to do. Our new son-in-law had his run through of his endurance test to get into the fire academy today and he passed, so one more hurdle behind them.

Three of the fish have died now, two of her special fantails and an algae eater. She has two fantails left, and they are both sick. She doesn't expect them to make it. We just don't understand how this happened so fast. They were fine when I was there Saturday, and now three of her 5 fish have died. What a horrible thing to come home to.

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by DianaB

If you develop a good relationship with his mother she'll be more willing to cooperate with you on holidays and your own gatherings. It's definitely give and take!

I've been going above and beyond on this one, bending over backwards to be nice, inclusive and complementary. This is going to take very ounce of political savy, tongue biting and niceness that I can muster. It will be a challenge to say the least. I've been praying a lot about it. For me and for her.

[Janet]

You can vent, share or whatever you need to do here Marilyn. We're here for you and will do what ever we can to help. If the truth was to be told Marilyn...she's probably just as jealous of you.

[judy]

Now they're home, and the marriage really begins. They had a wonderful start
with the beautiful wedding and wonderful honeymoon. My prayers that they have a long and joyful life together.

I'm sorry about her fish.

You're such a good Mom, cleaning her house so that they can come home and relax.

Jessie lived 5 minutes away from her in-laws, and about an hour away from me.
I hated it, was jealous, and then I slowly got over it. I was always so happy because my grandchildren clearly love me more than Steve's mom. How mean
of me!

Anyway, the table has turned now. I'll be near them and his folks about 4 hours away. (And the children still love me more). I'm not being mean anymore. It is what it is. She's really a lovely woman.