I could use some advice.

[HALEY]

There wouldn't be a society, cause MEN couln't handle the pain of child birth

[Janet]

Haley you're so funny...LOL...they usually can't even handle the flu....LOLOL

[Tink]

The issue seems to come from the fact that as Christians we are instructed not to give any importance to "other Gods" or goddesses, or anything of the sort. So to participate is seen as opposed to one of the basic rules of being Christian.

I really don't agree that men are placed above women in Christianity. They are to be leaders and protectors, but women are to be nurturers and support to help the men (and our children) to go in the right direction. I see it more as a hammer and a nail... one is not able to be of much value without the other. Take either away and you are lacking something vital. The hammer might seem to have the power and be the driving force, but without the nail it still won't accomplish what it's intended to.

JMHO

[Gina]

Originally Posted by Dobie

My friend Ray practices Wicca and his wife is Christian (not quite sure how that can blend, but they seem to make it work). They have agreed that their children will be raised with a combination of both.

My issue is that the witchcraft makes me very uncomfortable. In the past, Ray has said he will say some sort of positive energy spell for me or make me some herbs to put under my pillow - I finally told him that I wasn't comfortable with it and we no longer discuss it.

When their 2 year old was born, they had a Wiccan naming ceremony on one weekend, then his baptism a month later. I only attended the baptism. They've just had a baby girl and are planning on combining the 2 this time. They will do the baptism, then have a get together immediately afterwards at their house for the naming ceremony.

Do you think it would be rude for me to attend the baptism and not the party afterwards? or possibly show up later, after the wiccan rituals. I don't know why it makes me feel so uncomfortable, but it really does - and I couldn't in good conscience be an active participant like they want everyone to do (Ray says they say some very postive chants that they ask people to repeat).

Any ideas how I can do this gracefully without insulting them?

Getting back to the originial post.. Dobie you do what you feel is best and feel most comfortable with. Everyone has different thoughts on religions and their beliefs.. In this case it would be hypocritical to participant in something that you don't believe in and would make you feel uncomfortable.. IMO if you didn't have to particpant and just wanted to observe , that should be your choice... I think your friends should understand that you want to only attend the baptismal based on your beliefs..

I am so grateful to you for posting your original question and opening a discussion about the isse. It is a true breath of fresh air to see and to know that people can discuss this without prejudice and judgement!! THANK YOU!!