Why did you decide to have children?

[Mandy78]

Originally Posted by Necee419

I think it is so rude for people to ask "when are the babies coming?" I get this all the time. I am 30 years old and have people "politely" reminding me that my baby days are winding down. How the h@ll is it YOUR business how many child bearing years I have left? If half of the people in this world minded their own business as much as they mind yours, this world would be a better place. Don't ever feel like you have to justify your life choices to anyone. You must do what is right for you. Bringing a child into this world is an enormous responsibility and one that should not be taken lightly. I commend you for thinking carefully about this. If more people took the time to think things through before having children, then maybe we wouldn't have so many abused, unwanted children in this world.

I totally agree!!!!!

I also get tired of people asking me..blah, blah, blah. It gets really old!
Especially my clients. I almost want to start saying, YES...We have been trying for 2 years now, just to get people off my back! But I doubt that would work! GRRR

I wish more people would think long and hard about having kids, and not just have them because thats what is supposed to happen after marriage! And true, we would not have as many unwanted kids in this world.

[Janet]

I just don't see how anyone could be so bold to ask such a personal question. I would never ask such a thing. Why not ask bra size....penis size....Some people just don't have a clue!!

You should NEVER have children just to make someone else other than you and your husband happy. Afterall, you're going to be the one that's responsible for the child(ren) for better or for worse.

I'm pushing the envelope here sitting in my early 30's. The fact of the matter is, we know children will greatly impact our lives and our lifestyles. Although I can see the pros and cons of either choice, hubby is pretty adament about not have children...ever. The thing is, we don't want to be half-ass parents. We're both very busy with our lives and our work. It just wouldn't be fair to have children, then have them be raised by a babysitter. But not having a double income is very difficult given where we live. Add that to the turmoils of raising children in today's culture. It's enough to scare us into NOT having kids.

My parents, although they really want me to have children, know better than to nag me about it. My in-laws, are nagging me so much that I had to tell my husband to keep his parents under control before I get too annoyed and say something snippy. My mother in law is constantly telling me I'm getting old and need to have children before it's too late. If hubby (HER SON) doesn't want any then it's my responsibility to convince him otherwise. I had to bite my tongue so much in that convo 'cause all I can think is... "well, YOU go convince YOUR SON that he ought to have children soon before his old wife gets too old to have any."

I have 2 yorkies. They are my babies. And right now, that's all I need to fulfill my "maternal instincts".