I am single

gja1000 · 10-27-2008, 05:22 PM

It's the right thing - I've known for quite a while now - just by the way you write about Kyle and your relationship. It's time, even if you cave tonight, it's time........

Lindsey · 10-27-2008, 05:27 PM

I got through it, it's done

gja1000 · 10-27-2008, 06:29 PM

It's hard, take care.

judy · 10-28-2008, 07:40 AM

Feeling free is a wonderful thing. Congratulations Lindsey! I know it's hard, but you did it!

Dobie · 10-28-2008, 07:51 AM

I'm happy to see that you are taking care of yourself and trying to move on from a relationship that wasn't working for you - I wish you the best of luck as you move forward!!

Lindsey · 10-28-2008, 08:00 AM

So yesterday when we had our talk he was like "I'm going to be so lonely at lunch. Seeing you for every lunch was like the only thing that could get me through the day" and he started crying. Later, after everything was said and done, I got home and he texted me saying "I would still really like it if you would come over for lunch" and I said "I can't right away. We need a break for awhile" and he said "Oh."
This morning I got to work and he had already emailed me asking how I'm doing and how my night was, and that everything sucks for him and he doesn't know how to deal with it. I replied, but kind of just answered his questions, and then he asked if he should just leave me alone because it seems like I don't want to hear from him anymore. I told him I'd love to be his friend, I meant what I said, but that the transition from dating to friends is going to be a lot harder on him if we don't take a break at all.
His sadness is just breaking my heart. I know my feelings are more important, and I feel like my life has moved on and I was over him before the relationship was done, so there is no getting back together, but I just wish he could get over me faster

I've been in his shoes and I know it sucks and I know it hurts and I hate that I made someone feel that terrible.

gja1000 · 10-28-2008, 05:21 PM

Yes, of course you hate it that you have hurt him - but it is the way it has to be and they are HIS feelings to deal with. You are not responsible for him working through his feelings. I know you hate it that you had to hurt him, but you had to do it, there was no other way.

10-27-2008, 05:22 PM	#1
gja1000 Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Texas Posts: 5,717	It's the right thing - I've known for quite a while now - just by the way you write about Kyle and your relationship. It's time, even if you cave tonight, it's time........ __________________ Gayle

10-27-2008, 05:27 PM	#2
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	I got through it, it's done __________________ Lindsey "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it..." -Marilyn Monroe

10-27-2008, 06:29 PM	#3
gja1000 Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Texas Posts: 5,717	It's hard, take care. __________________ Gayle

10-28-2008, 07:40 AM	#4
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Feeling free is a wonderful thing. Congratulations Lindsey! I know it's hard, but you did it! __________________ *Judy*

10-28-2008, 08:00 AM	#6
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	So yesterday when we had our talk he was like "I'm going to be so lonely at lunch. Seeing you for every lunch was like the only thing that could get me through the day" and he started crying. Later, after everything was said and done, I got home and he texted me saying "I would still really like it if you would come over for lunch" and I said "I can't right away. We need a break for awhile" and he said "Oh." This morning I got to work and he had already emailed me asking how I'm doing and how my night was, and that everything sucks for him and he doesn't know how to deal with it. I replied, but kind of just answered his questions, and then he asked if he should just leave me alone because it seems like I don't want to hear from him anymore. I told him I'd love to be his friend, I meant what I said, but that the transition from dating to friends is going to be a lot harder on him if we don't take a break at all. His sadness is just breaking my heart. I know my feelings are more important, and I feel like my life has moved on and I was over him before the relationship was done, so there is no getting back together, but I just wish he could get over me faster I've been in his shoes and I know it sucks and I know it hurts and I hate that I made someone feel that terrible. __________________ Lindsey "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it..." -Marilyn Monroe

10-28-2008, 07:51 AM	#5
Dobie Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 1,075	I'm happy to see that you are taking care of yourself and trying to move on from a relationship that wasn't working for you - I wish you the best of luck as you move forward!!

10-28-2008, 05:21 PM	#7
gja1000 Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Texas Posts: 5,717	Yes, of course you hate it that you have hurt him - but it is the way it has to be and they are HIS feelings to deal with. You are not responsible for him working through his feelings. I know you hate it that you had to hurt him, but you had to do it, there was no other way. __________________ Gayle

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