nightmares of old relationship..

rivermom · 10-06-2006, 04:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Taurus Babe

Has anyone ever experience horrible nightmares about an ex? ( I went through a really bad breakup) I have starting having really intense, really long nightmares about my ex and ususally he is trying to kill me!! Then I'm in a bad/sad/scared mood all day long...This is really bothering me, so thanks for listening

This has got to be so horrible for you. Id try a therapist or even possibly writing your ex a letter (BUT DON'T SEND IT, JUST THROW IT AWAY WHEN FINISHED), putting down all your feelings. Your fears, anxieties, etc. Get it out of you. Then, just throw away the letter and tell yourself you're done with all the worry.

Don't obsess about it, at night when you lay asleep think of happy thoughts.

I hope this works for you.

Taurus Babe · 10-06-2006, 07:39 PM

Thanks guys! I've thought of therapy for other things that happened throughout the relationship that it would probably help to get off my mind, and I guess that's a start to this. I was just hoping that I could control my dreams better and get over this!! We broke up in april...but really, he finally stopped bothering me mid august...so i guess it's still fresh. I feel stupid having to go to a therapist since I'm studying psych...but in the same sentence I know it's okay to get help. Man this guy is such a nightmare...literally!!!

Janet · 10-07-2006, 02:30 AM

I've found that most of the time the nightmares go away after a week or so. How long have you had them? A therapist would help alot. Sounds like you still have unresolved issues about this guy and the breakup. I wish you the best in conquering these horrible dreams.

Taurus Babe · 10-07-2006, 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Janet

I've found that most of the time the nightmares go away after a week or so. How long have you had them? A therapist would help alot. Sounds like you still have unresolved issues about this guy and the breakup. I wish you the best in conquering these horrible dreams.

I've been having them for about two months...

Mandy · 10-07-2006, 04:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Taurus Babe

Thanks guys! I've thought of therapy for other things that happened throughout the relationship that it would probably help to get off my mind, and I guess that's a start to this. I was just hoping that I could control my dreams better and get over this!! We broke up in april...but really, he finally stopped bothering me mid august...so i guess it's still fresh. I feel stupid having to go to a therapist since I'm studying psych...but in the same sentence I know it's okay to get help. Man this guy is such a nightmare...literally!!!

No need to feel stupid, therapists are also only human, the best therapists out there are the ones with personal experience! We all need help at some stage in our lives, and it will only make us stronger!!

Taurus Babe · 10-07-2006, 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Mandy

No need to feel stupid, therapists are also only human, the best therapists out there are the ones with personal experience! We all need help at some stage in our lives, and it will only make us stronger!!

That's very true!

Janet · 10-07-2006, 07:17 AM

One other thing I forgot to mention is change your night time habits. Don't do anything the same way you do when you are having the nightmares. Not sure why this works but it does...sometimes.

Most of us have some kind of ritual we follow, just mix it up completely and see what happens, but definitely don't think about the nightmares before you go to sleep. Hope this helps some.

Taurus Babe · 10-07-2006, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Janet

One other thing I forgot to mention is change your night time habits. Don't do anything the same way you do when you are having the nightmares. Not sure why this works but it does...sometimes.
Most of us have some kind of ritual we follow, just mix it up completely and see what happens, but definitely don't think about the nightmares before you go to sleep. Hope this helps some.

Hummm, that's something I hadn't thought of. Thanks. I'll give it a try and see how is goes!

Janet · 10-07-2006, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Taurus Babe

Hummm, that's something I hadn't thought of. Thanks. I'll give it a try and see how is goes!

Give it time and please...let me know how it works for you.

10-06-2006, 07:39 PM	#2
Taurus Babe Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 668	Thanks guys! I've thought of therapy for other things that happened throughout the relationship that it would probably help to get off my mind, and I guess that's a start to this. I was just hoping that I could control my dreams better and get over this!! We broke up in april...but really, he finally stopped bothering me mid august...so i guess it's still fresh. I feel stupid having to go to a therapist since I'm studying psych...but in the same sentence I know it's okay to get help. Man this guy is such a nightmare...literally!!! __________________ Taurus Babe aka Thorsmomma

10-07-2006, 02:30 AM	#3
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I've found that most of the time the nightmares go away after a week or so. How long have you had them? A therapist would help alot. Sounds like you still have unresolved issues about this guy and the breakup. I wish you the best in conquering these horrible dreams. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

10-07-2006, 07:17 AM	#7
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	One other thing I forgot to mention is change your night time habits. Don't do anything the same way you do when you are having the nightmares. Not sure why this works but it does...sometimes. Most of us have some kind of ritual we follow, just mix it up completely and see what happens, but definitely don't think about the nightmares before you go to sleep. Hope this helps some. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

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