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[Sherry Lynn]

How horrible! Do they realize that they're doing it? What would they say if you confronted them....

Say something like... the kids can't come over when Little Johnny is there because it hurts their feelings so much when you treat Little Johnny so much better than you do them. So rather than see their feelings hurt so badly, I prefer to keep them away.

I don't have children, but with my nieces and nephews I always try to keep things as equal as possible. I do tease them a lot and I'm always telling them 'Don't tell the others, but you know you're my favorite!' Now that they're older they just grin, roll their eyes and finish the sentence for me.

[SweetCuteness]

This is all horrible! Your BIL's girlfriend isn't even technically a part of the family and you've been there for years. I'm sorry you're going through this. I would feel exactly the same way. When the grandparents are older, and all the grandkids are grown, they'll regret what they've done now... especially when they feel neglected and don't ever come around the grandparents. Maybe then the grandparents will understand how it feels.