I'm a little nervous....

[judy]

That might be a good idea Diana. This way he would know that I respect his feelings and don't just brush them off, and put everything out in the open. I would certainly have cancelled if it was an emergency, and I think he should hear me say it. Jessie already told him all of this, but that's not the same as coming from me.

My oldest gd called at 10 - when am I coming over? I better get dressed and bounce on over there! She's 11 and is near the end of her wanting to hang out with Grandma, so I don't want to lose out on any of it.

[judy]

I took your advice Diana. As soon as I got to Jessie's, I told Steve I was sorry about not coming over. He said not to worry about it - it's over. I said, no - we should have discussed it and maybe cut out some of their chores (which is what they did anyway) so that I could have come over after my appointment because I knew he didn't want to take the children in the car. He didn't say much, but I put it out there. Jessie told me I didn't have to do that because, as far as he was concerned, it was over and done.

I'm glad I did though because I want him to know that I care about his feelings.
I also wanted him to know that we should discuss these things and maybe compromise.

[DianaB]

I'm glad that it worked out so well for you. Good job, Judy!!!

[judy]

Thanks Diana. He was just fine yesterday, so I did the right thing. I do wonder if showing up at 10:15 yesterday was payback though. I hope that's the end of the payback!

[Janet]

I think Diana always gives good advice. It's always thoughtful. Glad it worked for you Judy.