Christmas Is Now Over

[Marilyn]

Oh, Janet, so sorry the news wasn't better. Is she still planning the Florida trip??? Sincerely hope that she realizes what she needs to do.

[Janet]

Thanks all. She knows what she needs to do, but she doesn't like anything that is a 'hassle.' She considers dialysis a hassle. Someone will have to be with her for at least 3 hours while it's happening or she can go to a dialysis center 3 times a week. She said that wasn't happening. So...it's really up to her. We told her we're willing to do whatever it takes, but it's all up to her. I can't believe she is still going to Florida. We don't have the money to go down there if something should happen. We have jobs that we need to keep so it puts us in a bad situation. She knows all this, but says she's going anyway. She has always been a ME ME ME type person. She's leaving on the 3rd.

[judy]

Oh Janet, I am so sorry you got bad news about your Mom and that she is refusing to deal with it. She is not an easy one, that's for sure. I know how much you love her and how you would take care of her if she let you.

My prayers for her and for you.

[DianaB]

Sorry, Janet. I know that all of this is a big worry for you. With her kidney function so low she really does need to listen to the doctor. Did they explain how all of this is affecting her body already and if it gets worse?

[Janet]

Yes..they explained everything. It's not that she is in denial or anything, she knows what she has to do. But to her...it's not a priority. Right now her first priority is getting to Florida even though we've all tried to talk her out of it.

Also, she is suppose to make an appointment in Florida to get started on these shots that she needs. I told her to call down there now...she said she will call after she is down there and has everything put away. She will always do what she wants.

I just wish she'd stay home and let us help her. There is no doubt in my mind that she will have to start dialysis down there, because she doesn't come back until the last of April or first of May. I don't know what else to do to convince her. While trying to tell her how much she means to me and crying....it still didn't matter.

[Marilyn]

Sounds like she's just being very very stubborn and wants to live the rest of her life on her terms. It's so sad that she's come to this point. Dialysis will be the loss of her freedom. This must be very very hard for all of you!!!

[Janet]

It really won't be a problem Marilyn (but she is stubborn..lol). It has come such a long way. In her case, she would only have to have it done a few times a week and it would take about 3 hours each time. She is still free to do whatever she wants. That's why I don't understand why she doesn't want to go ahead with the treatment. Everyday you and I are probably seeing SO many people on dialysis and we don't even realize it. I just want her to start it so all the toxins will be out of her body.