Christmas Is Now Over

[Janet]

Yes..they explained everything. It's not that she is in denial or anything, she knows what she has to do. But to her...it's not a priority. Right now her first priority is getting to Florida even though we've all tried to talk her out of it.

Also, she is suppose to make an appointment in Florida to get started on these shots that she needs. I told her to call down there now...she said she will call after she is down there and has everything put away. She will always do what she wants.

I just wish she'd stay home and let us help her. There is no doubt in my mind that she will have to start dialysis down there, because she doesn't come back until the last of April or first of May. I don't know what else to do to convince her. While trying to tell her how much she means to me and crying....it still didn't matter.

[Marilyn]

Sounds like she's just being very very stubborn and wants to live the rest of her life on her terms. It's so sad that she's come to this point. Dialysis will be the loss of her freedom. This must be very very hard for all of you!!!

[Janet]

It really won't be a problem Marilyn (but she is stubborn..lol). It has come such a long way. In her case, she would only have to have it done a few times a week and it would take about 3 hours each time. She is still free to do whatever she wants. That's why I don't understand why she doesn't want to go ahead with the treatment. Everyday you and I are probably seeing SO many people on dialysis and we don't even realize it. I just want her to start it so all the toxins will be out of her body.

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by Janet

It really won't be a problem Marilyn (but she is stubborn..lol). It has come such a long way. In her case, she would only have to have it done a few times a week and it would take about 3 hours each time. She is still free to do whatever she wants. That's why I don't understand why she doesn't want to go ahead with the treatment. Everyday you and I are probably seeing SO many people on dialysis and we don't even realize it. I just want her to start it so all the toxins will be out of her body.

A few times a week, and 3 hours each time is quite a committment. It's hard to get around to making an appointment to get a hair cut, let alone something that takes 3 hours and must be done several times a week. I have a friend who was on dialysis for quite some time prior to her kidney transplant, and each treatment made her feel really bad. It's something your mom needs, desperately, and she very definitely should begin as soon as possible, but you should also realize that from her standpoint, this is does represent a loss of independence.

So hope that she makes the right decisions & that she begins the treatments so that she can be healthier for all of you.

[Janet]

Thanks...I hope she makes the right decision too, but she's headed to Florida tomorrow. My SIL drives her down and then flies back. Hopefully while she's there she can help get Mom's appointments set up.

[Marilyn]

I'll be praying for their safe travels, and that your mom does what she needs to do to get good medical care while she is there!!!

[Janet]

Thanks Marilyn....I love my Mom so much...guess I know where I get my stubborness...lol