Marriage Counseling?

[Janet]

I wish we would have had it offered, but we didn't. We really didn't discuss money and things really important and we should have!!!!!

[RLC12345678]

Yes! My hubby and I went to pre-marital counseling before we were married. Our church would not marry us unless we did. I am SO glad that we did it! It was actually fun for both of us! We actually looked forward to going. At the very first session, we each took a separate personality test that asked us questions about how we grew up, how we would handle certain situations, etc. etc. The test was sent off and our preacher received a report back and our counseling sessions were based on that report. There were certain areas that we were VERY campatible in, and other areas that we were not so compatible in and those areas were the ones that our counseling sessions were based on. We talked about money, careers, children, conflict resolution, our expectations, our fears, everything! It was a very rewarding experience. I wouldn't mind going back and doing something like that again after we've been married for several years.

Oh yeah, after all of our conseling sessions were over, our preacher looked at my hubby and me and told us that we were "suspiciously well-suited for each other and if anyone can make a marriage work, it would be us." I thought that was a great compliment.

[Taurus Babe]

Awww! That's great! I think it's a great thing to go through before you marry. I
m not married but I think I'll do it before I get married.

[Necee419]

My husband and I plan to marry through the church next year and we are required to attend what are called "pre-cana" classes. We are Catholic and it is mandatory for us to attend these before we can validate our civil marriage through the church. I have heard from other couples that they are rather fun and very informative. Even though we are already married, I still think we will benefit from them. Our church also offers couples retreats and I hear they are very positive experiences for couples. We are scheduled to attend these classes in November and I will be sure to post on here to let you all know how they went.

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Necee419

My husband and I plan to marry through the church next year and we are required to attend what are called "pre-cana" classes. We are Catholic and it is mandatory for us to attend these before we can validate our civil marriage through the church. I have heard from other couples that they are rather fun and very informative. Even though we are already married, I still think we will benefit from them. Our church also offers couples retreats and I hear they are very positive experiences for couples. We are scheduled to attend these classes in November and I will be sure to post on here to let you all know how they went.

We have friends that are Catholic and went on the couples retreat and said it was definately a positive experience.

We went to marriage counseling also. It was great. There were areas that we hadn't discussed before (surprisingly) and it was really interesting to talk about it, and iron out our differences. We also had to take separate little "character" tests or something, and then talk about them. It was great. I would recommend it to everyone; it forced us to talk about children, finances, future goals, etc. I think our church would've married us without the counseling, but regardless, I'm glad we did it

[rivermom]

With all my marriages none of us went to pre-marriage counseling. I think the first two marriages we should have though, LOL.

But then again...I'm glad those didn't work out cuz then I wouldn't have the love of my life now.

I am all for counseling as long as you don't get physco info from your counsler. I've gone to some (after marriage) and WOW, THEY were the one's who needed help.

I recall one of my ex's going into counseling cuz well let's just say "he needed Viagra!". The counsler told him to have an affair as it would "jazz things up a bit".

Now c'mon people, and we paid this moron for this type of info? Good Lord, help that man!!