How forgiving are you?

[Kimberley]

Originally Posted by ice queen

My hubby cheated on me on the same day I got our marriage license! I was 7 months pregnant and we were living together at the time....he told me the very next day what he had done (he was drunk when he erred) and he felt so bad about what he had done. I told him to carry his sorry no good ass but we ended up getting married anyway. It hurt more than anything and it's been 8 years and I've just now gotten to where I can think about it without wanting to kill him. He went to Iraq for over a year and I told him that I trusted him but if he did cheat on me not to ever tell me about it and he said since he did it once if I ever wanted to be with somebody I could cheat on him twice to make up for it. As for the fil bringing home std's your mil is SO lucky she didn't end up with herpes, or even worse AIDs. That part I could never forgive and I would value my life more than having a man in my life that treated me like s***. My ex step-dad cheated on my mom and brought home an std and she literally beat the s*** out of him and the girl he got it from and kicked him out to the curb even though they had been together for almost twenty years. He treated her bad too and cheated on her all the time and she it wasn't worth being treated like that for the rest of her life and she took care of herself before she met him and she can take better care of herself after he's gone. so good luck to your mil and IMO she needs to kick him in his nads and stick her other foot up his ass....sorry for the foul language when i get upset i cuss.

HAHA! I hear ya with the language part. I totally agree! They've been married over 35 years and if he says jump, she jumps...literally. It sickens me...that's why I don't go over there much anymore.

[Amber_lv]

I personally have never had this happen but if my husband was to ever cheat on me it would be over my biggest fear would be for him to bring home an STD like aids and then what would my poor children do if we both died from his stupidity? To me that is unforgivable it makes me sick when women forgive these low life good for nothing pieces of sh@t it just gives them permission to keep doing it. I don't want to offend anyone by saying that but it's the truth to the woman who said she told her husband not to tell her if he did it again what would you do if he brought you home something deadly and you didn't even know till it was to late for you? I'm not in your situation and i don't want to offend you but you kinda gave him a license to cheat on you like what you don't know won't hurt you but it possibly could. Like the woman who are beat and abused they say he was sorry he didn't mean to and he'll never do it again but they always do and look how many end up dead from it. I'm sorry it's just a touchy subject for me my aunt was beaten by her husband for years and he raped her when he wanted sex she was in denial for years until he threw he out for a stripper ,he met at the bar. My sister also had a very controlling boyfriend and he hit her to and i threatened that POS within an inch of his life if he ever touched her again. We finally conviced her to leave him and she is married to a wonderful man now but she is scarred from her experience. I have had several friends that have been cheated on and i had one friend who was pregnant as her husband was cheating on her for the umpteenth time and he gave her an STD as well. We as women need to stand up for ourselves and show that we will not tolerate any of this behavior!!!! Sorry i will get off my soap box now i really hope i haven't offended anyone.

Originally Posted by Amber_lv

I personally have never had this happen but if my husband was to ever cheat on me it would be over my biggest fear would be for him to bring home an STD like aids and then what would my poor children do if we both died from his stupidity? To me that is unforgivable it makes me sick when women forgive these low life good for nothing pieces of sh@t it just gives them permission to keep doing it. I don't want to offend anyone by saying that but it's the truth to the woman who said she told her husband not to tell her if he did it again what would you do if he brought you home something deadly and you didn't even know till it was to late for you? I'm not in your situation and i don't want to offend you but you kinda gave him a license to cheat on you like what you don't know won't hurt you but it possibly could. Like the woman who are beat and abused they say he was sorry he didn't mean to and he'll never do it again but they always do and look how many end up dead from it. I'm sorry it's just a touchy subject for me my aunt was beaten by her husband for years and he raped her when he wanted sex she was in denial for years until he threw he out for a stripper ,he met at the bar. My sister also had a very controlling boyfriend and he hit her to and i threatened that POS within an inch of his life if he ever touched her again. We finally conviced her to leave him and she is married to a wonderful man now but she is scarred from her experience. I have had several friends that have been cheated on and i had one friend who was pregnant as her husband was cheating on her for the umpteenth time and he gave her an STD as well. We as women need to stand up for ourselves and show that we will not tolerate any of this behavior!!!! Sorry i will get off my soap box now i really hope i haven't offended anyone.

Don't worry you haven't offended me..i do agree with alot of the things you said. and as for cheating on me iraq i know he didn't because for some reason i am blessed (or am i) with the ability to catch people in a lie just from looking in their eyes or at least my family and close friends. i just knew in my heart of hearts that if he cheated on me and told me it would kill me emotionally so i thought at the time that was the only way to spare myself from reliving that pain again. plus in the military the test you for so much stuff overseas before you get there while you are there and before you are even allowed to come back in the states, then when you are home they test you again. he knows that i will kill him and the bitch he was with if he ever did it again...plus my mom and mil said to his face they would both shoot him between the eyes if they found out he was cheating on the mother of his babies so i think he is scared s***less as it is. he still apologizes for cheating on me so long ago but like i tell him saying i'm sorry doesn't take away the pain in my heart. and as for the sorry sob's that beat their women...it will all come back and bite them in the ass.... ever heard of karma? i have a friend who just went through a traumatic experience with her husband and she said that's enough i'm filing for divorce....she said she could deal with him treating her bad but when it came to the safety of her children she wanted him out so she called the cops-there was a shootout but they got him and she has a restraining order and is already filing for divorce.

Amber luv....i hope your tooth is feeling better and you at least went to the er or saw another dentist...you might need to get your friend to fly up there and place a double can of whoop azz on both those ding-ass dentists the one that messed up your mouth and the smart-ass on call dentist. i know at the er they will at least give you a shot or something to help the pain...take ibuprofen my ass....gets me all het up and wanting to kick some ass!!! i'm sure if you give your mom pouty-face she will let you stay over there all you want and let you sleep your pain away so she can love on her new grandbaby plus you can stay away from your mil who's been a turd!!!i'm sure her nagging wouldn't help your poor toofie feel any better....

I would never stay with any man that cheated on me. JMO I've forgiven enough other crap to let that slide.

[Lindsey]

Well, I haven't been married but I know how it feels to be cheated on... by every guy I've dated. The first guy I ever slept with, I dated for three years. I waited two years before I gave in and slept with him. I knew he had been going on dates and kissing other girls and stuff, but he always cried and apologized and I always took him back. So I slept with him, and we broke up a year later, and I found out that I probably wasn't his first... he was sleeping with another girl for the whole year. Needless to say I got very depressed and had low self esteem for a few years (and I'm only 22 now).
I was with another guy for two years and I thought he was amazing but I would always find other girls underwear and socks and random clothing in his bedroom, but i stuck around and half the time didn't even say anything. There were 3 or 4 guys around these relationships too, who all cheated, and they were the ones to dump me.
I basically said screw it, love doesn't exist, and any guy I marry is going to cheat on me so I would like to get married just to have kids, and then get divorced because i'm happier alone.
.... Until I met a guy who treats me like a princess, and makes me believe i'm worth more than I ever thought. I feel strong enough now that if I ever get cheated on again, I'm going to be the one to end it.

Lindsey, I am so glad that you finally found a KEEPER.

[Kimberley]

Originally Posted by butterfly

I would never stay with any man that cheated on me. JMO I've forgiven enough other crap to let that slide.

hmmm...you got a point there!

[RLC12345678]

I've already told my hubby that if he ever cheats on me, I'm divorcing him and taking all of his money with me! I won't think twice about doing it either.