Prayer for my son

Blueyes · 03-23-2009, 04:30 PM

Oh Donna! I'm so sorry for you both. At least you know where he will be sleeping at night and is being fed. Don't feel guilty for not bailing him out...they don't call it tough love for nothing. Try to get some rest...bless your heart

gja1000 · 03-23-2009, 05:59 PM

Donna, you are doing the right thing - he is an adult and he must take care of himself, as hard as that might be for him.

My sister-in-law bailed out her son, my nephew, so many times, and then she paid big bucks for him to go into residential drug treatment TWICE - he still got out and did drugs. He was a lawyer - you'd think he'd know better. Of course, he lost his law license and finally, my sil had to let him go to jail. There comes a point when you just can no longer rescue them, you have to let nature take its course. You just have to and you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Of course you love him and you feel badly for him, but he has made the wrong choices, and you can't change that.

I hope you can find some peace. Have you gone to Narc Anon, or some group help for family of an addict? If you have, then call someone or if you haven't, now would be the time.

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.

donna1990 · 03-24-2009, 10:41 AM

Thank you Gail, so sorry about your nephew. I do have friends in Narc Anon, what a big help they are. My X bailed him out today, as long as he keeps treating him like a child he will never change. He, the X is so stupid, he told our son that he will be so happy when he is dead and gone so that he will not have to worry about him "Troy" anymore.
I told him last night that there was nothing I could do but pray for him.

AngieDoogles · 03-24-2009, 02:19 PM

Donna, I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. So many of my clients have issues with drugs and it is really tough on everyone involved. I'll say a prayer for him and for you. *hugs*

gja1000 · 03-24-2009, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by donna1990

T He, the X is so stupid, he told our son that he will be so happy when he is dead and gone so that he will not have to worry about him "Troy" anymore.
I told him last night that there was nothing I could do but pray for him.

What an idiot (sorry) I shouldn't say that, but it seems to be true!!!

Donna, I hope you can find some peace.

Shada · 03-24-2009, 05:47 PM

I truly pray this will be the wake up call your son needs.
Prayers sent your way.

[HUGS]

Gina · 03-25-2009, 03:11 PM

Donna.. I will keep you and your son in my prayers. I hope he finds the way back, it is hard. But I do know a few who has overcome this problem. hugs to you.. Please try not to get sick over this. I know its easier said than done.

Forgivenmom5 · 03-25-2009, 08:08 PM

Donna I know it must be hard but keep the faith. I know a lady from church who prayed for her son for many years. She says she spent many sleepless nights on her knees and was terrified every time the phone rang because she didn't know what would happen to him.

He has been clean for years now. He is married, has a son, plays guitar and sings gospel music. he has worked with youth in several churches and now runs a ministry for people who have been in prison or using drugs and alcohol.

Hopefully your prayers will be answered also.

donna1990 · 03-26-2009, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by gja1000

What an idiot (sorry) I shouldn't say that, but it seems to be true!!!

Donna, I hope you can find some peace.

You are right that is why I divorced him.

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

2tiredmom · 03-26-2009, 12:16 PM

Donna,

I am so sorry to hear this. Your both in my prayers also. You have done the right thing. They have to learn from their mistakes. We can't bail them out all the time.
Some times you just have to be tough. God Bless you both.

03-23-2009, 04:30 PM	#1
Blueyes Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 2,119	Oh Donna! I'm so sorry for you both. At least you know where he will be sleeping at night and is being fed. Don't feel guilty for not bailing him out...they don't call it tough love for nothing. Try to get some rest...bless your heart __________________ Betsi

03-23-2009, 05:59 PM	#2
gja1000 Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Texas Posts: 5,717	Donna, you are doing the right thing - he is an adult and he must take care of himself, as hard as that might be for him. My sister-in-law bailed out her son, my nephew, so many times, and then she paid big bucks for him to go into residential drug treatment TWICE - he still got out and did drugs. He was a lawyer - you'd think he'd know better. Of course, he lost his law license and finally, my sil had to let him go to jail. There comes a point when you just can no longer rescue them, you have to let nature take its course. You just have to and you have nothing to feel guilty about. Of course you love him and you feel badly for him, but he has made the wrong choices, and you can't change that. I hope you can find some peace. Have you gone to Narc Anon, or some group help for family of an addict? If you have, then call someone or if you haven't, now would be the time. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. __________________ Gayle

03-24-2009, 10:41 AM	#3
donna1990 Donating 4WT Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Riverview, FL Posts: 1,077	Thank you Gail, so sorry about your nephew. I do have friends in Narc Anon, what a big help they are. My X bailed him out today, as long as he keeps treating him like a child he will never change. He, the X is so stupid, he told our son that he will be so happy when he is dead and gone so that he will not have to worry about him "Troy" anymore. I told him last night that there was nothing I could do but pray for him. __________________

03-24-2009, 02:19 PM	#4
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	Donna, I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. So many of my clients have issues with drugs and it is really tough on everyone involved. I'll say a prayer for him and for you. hugs __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

03-25-2009, 08:08 PM	#8
Forgivenmom5 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 1,409	Donna I know it must be hard but keep the faith. I know a lady from church who prayed for her son for many years. She says she spent many sleepless nights on her knees and was terrified every time the phone rang because she didn't know what would happen to him. He has been clean for years now. He is married, has a son, plays guitar and sings gospel music. he has worked with youth in several churches and now runs a ministry for people who have been in prison or using drugs and alcohol. Hopefully your prayers will be answered also. __________________ ~Debbie~

03-24-2009, 05:47 PM	#6
Shada Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 1,228	I truly pray this will be the wake up call your son needs. Prayers sent your way. [HUGS]

03-25-2009, 03:11 PM	#7
Gina Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,025	Donna.. I will keep you and your son in my prayers. I hope he finds the way back, it is hard. But I do know a few who has overcome this problem. hugs to you.. Please try not to get sick over this. I know its easier said than done.

03-26-2009, 12:16 PM	#10
2tiredmom Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,367	Donna, I am so sorry to hear this. Your both in my prayers also. You have done the right thing. They have to learn from their mistakes. We can't bail them out all the time. Some times you just have to be tough. God Bless you both. __________________ The real measure of a woman's wealth is what she has invested in eternity. Linda aka 2tiredmom

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