The second meeting

[gja1000]

Well then, you are just going to have to figure out how to make it work. I don't envy you, but as lots of others have said, it can be done. Hey, maybe you'll come to the States, and decide to stay here - THAT would put a lot of distance between you two!

[Mandy]

Hmm... i dont envy you, i personally would not be able to stay polite to her!
There is a huge difference between teasing a person, and being plain insulting, it's pathetic on her part for insulting her own son's GF ~ it says everything and lack of personality, in a way i feel bad for her, poor thing doesnt know any better obviously.
Follow your heart Lindsey, i am sure he really loves you, and who knows what he has had to put up with in the past.
It's not natural for him to feel that "it's wrong" to have a GF, how did mommy dearest meet daddy? I am sure they must have been in love at some point, or else Scott and hes sisters wouldnt be around, or did she find them on her doorstep?

[Lindsey]

I talked to my parents again about this last night and told them how his mom was apologizing like crazy and neither of my parents believed it was genuine. They both pointed out that she wouldn't have acted like that in the first place if it wasn't her true personality. There is no excuse for being that insulting to a person. She is far from perfect, and for being such a religious and church-going person you'd think she would realize it is not her place to judge anyone.
Oh well, I want to be with him and he wants to be with me and I am not letting his mom get in the way of us. Like so many people have said, we need to make a life for ourselves, not just to make our parents happy. And I think I've gotten to the point where I don't care anymore if she likes me or hates me. As long as she can hold back her insults, I'm just going to keep living my life (hopefully with her son!)

[Blueyes]

Lindsey..there is a world of difference between a religious/church going person, and a spiritual person. It's so disturbing to me when a person makes such an issue out of being "religious", but doesn't have the first clue how to treat people the way Jesus taught.

[pope1982]

I agree with your parents that it's not genuine. If anything, it's probably condescending! I say, show you are the better person and play her game this once, give her enough rope to hang herself.
You know the old saying "fool me once,"...

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by pope1982

I agree with your parents that it's not genuine. If anything, it's probably condescending! I say, show you are the better person and play her game this once, give her enough rope to hang herself.
You know the old saying "fool me once,"...

I think the only person who believes her is Scott. But I will go along with it, I will give it another chance, and hopefully she is more respectful even just if it's to keep her son from being angry with her.

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by Blueyes

Lindsey..there is a world of difference between a religious/church going person, and a spiritual person. It's so disturbing to me when a person makes such an issue out of being "religious", but doesn't have the first clue how to treat people the way Jesus taught.

I agree completely.
She makes a huge fuss out of her kids not going to church anymore, especially Scott. The way he tells it, he still has his beliefs, he still has faith, he just doesn't feel he needs to go to church every week to feel it. The main thing is that he is a GOOD PERSON. He treats people well and has a good conscience. His mom may go to church every week but she is lacking basic manners and respect for other people. It doesn't make her any better a person than he is, or than I am, or than anyone else is!

[celstu1]

When you marry someone, you marry their family too.... think about that! Good Luck!

[Lindsey]

I have not had the pleasure of seeing his mom again since the last meeting, although they were in the city on Thursday night. Scott left to meet them to pick up some things while I had a friend at my house (spending the night as she was passing through town) Scott's mom called earlier that day to arrange when they'd be in and I heard Scott say "I don't need to go there for anything" and his mom said "Well I guess not unless you want to visit with us for a little while" and Scott said "No I don't really need to" ... Then he told me when he met them at his house his mom kept asking where he was in such a hurry to go, and he just said "Back to Lindsey's, she has company and we're visiting" And his mom wasn't pleased but she didn't say anything more.
Anyways, we just spent Easter weekend with my family and friends back home while his parents went to BC. On our way back to the city late last night he said to me "I love visiting your family. I feel way more comfortable there than I even do at my own parents' house" I told him I'm glad he said that because I feel more comfortable there too.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Blueyes

Lindsey..there is a world of difference between a religious/church going person, and a spiritual person. It's so disturbing to me when a person makes such an issue out of being "religious", but doesn't have the first clue how to treat people the way Jesus taught.

Exactly!!!! I agree 100% with you.

As the saying goes "Practice what you preach"

[judy]

Whatever she does or says, just remember that she is a psycho.

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by judy

Whatever she does or says, just remember that she is a psycho.

Great advice lol
She was talking to Scott on msn this morning at work (I hate that... I don't even use msn at work. I do use the internet quite a bit but I figure there's gotta be a line somewhere) and I guess her computer at home froze while she was typing something so she called him immediately to continue the conversation, and of course to tell him to say hello to me for her.