My best friend's wedding

[Blueyes]

Maybe you could at least get out of going to the shower from the grooms side. They should understand that is a lot of extra expense for you. Just explain the situation to the bride..she probably hasn't even thought about how much time and money this is taking from you!

[DianaB]

That's what I was going to say. Figure out what you really want to go to and can afford to go to. Then explain about the expense. If she's a good friend she'll realize what all of this is costing you and let you off of the hook on some things. It really does sound like she's expecting a lot from you.

[Tiramisu]

You sound like a wonderful friend and I wish I had a close friend just like you. I think all these good deeds will come back to you.

[Lindsey]

Aww thank you! I think I may have to skip out on the Edmonton shower... At least I am making it to one shower and I will make it to Edmonton for the bachelorette party. I will talk to her about it next weekend when I visit.
If I budget well, I may be able to afford going to Europe after all. And if I can't afford it fully, I may just put some on my credit card and it can be paid off when I get back. It's just an opportunity I don't want to pass up and I want to have my own little adventure while I am young. I think it's the kind of trip that would have a big impression on me and I would grow and learn so much from it!

[judy]

Originally Posted by Blueyes

Maybe you could at least get out of going to the shower from the grooms side. They should understand that is a lot of extra expense for you. Just explain the situation to the bride..she probably hasn't even thought about how much time and money this is taking from you!

I third that idea. I'm sure she will understand. You are a wonderful maid of honor, and a good friend. Jessie's maid of honor was just terrible. She didn't do a thing, and they are still good friends.

I love that your whole town gets involved in a wedding. That is lovely.

How about not worrying about the money, and just enjoying the experience of being at your friend's side. As long as your bills are paid, and you can still go to Europe, it's only money.

I went to Europe in my twenties with my first husband, and I totally agree that you should go while you're young. I will never forget that trip, and the things I saw and did. We couldn't really afford it either, but here I am, still fine!