How forgiving are you?

I would never stay with any man that cheated on me. JMO I've forgiven enough other crap to let that slide.

[Lindsey]

Well, I haven't been married but I know how it feels to be cheated on... by every guy I've dated. The first guy I ever slept with, I dated for three years. I waited two years before I gave in and slept with him. I knew he had been going on dates and kissing other girls and stuff, but he always cried and apologized and I always took him back. So I slept with him, and we broke up a year later, and I found out that I probably wasn't his first... he was sleeping with another girl for the whole year. Needless to say I got very depressed and had low self esteem for a few years (and I'm only 22 now).
I was with another guy for two years and I thought he was amazing but I would always find other girls underwear and socks and random clothing in his bedroom, but i stuck around and half the time didn't even say anything. There were 3 or 4 guys around these relationships too, who all cheated, and they were the ones to dump me.
I basically said screw it, love doesn't exist, and any guy I marry is going to cheat on me so I would like to get married just to have kids, and then get divorced because i'm happier alone.
.... Until I met a guy who treats me like a princess, and makes me believe i'm worth more than I ever thought. I feel strong enough now that if I ever get cheated on again, I'm going to be the one to end it.

Lindsey, I am so glad that you finally found a KEEPER.

To be completely honest I have never been put in this situation, except in my past when a boyfriend of almost 1 year cheated on me, and it broke my heart. Only it was alot easier because we weren't married. As soon as I found out, it was over. I broke up with him right away. I am worth more than that. Some people are forgiving on these types of things, my best friend being one of them, her husband has cheated on her a million times, including with her own sister (yeah..I know). But I personally couldn't forgive something like this. I have thought long and hard about this before and I honestly do not think that I would be able to stay. One of the main reasons being that I know in my heart of hearts that I personally would never be able to trust him again, ever. Once someone breaks my trust, it is pretty much broken. That's it. I know we are supposed to forgive, but I'm sorry, that just isn't in me when it comes to something like this.

We have some Kick Ass Women on here. Not to mention eloquent ones too!

[Cribal]

I will FORGIVE just about anything, but I NEVER fORGET ANYTHING!!!

The couple things that I will say forsure that I would never forgive would be Abuse (of anykind:verbal or physical) and cheating.

I know part of this topic wasn't abuse but someone brought it up so.... : I would pitty the man that would ever put a hand on me. I'm not trying to say that I'm this really strong person that could beat up men but if a guy hits me and if I don't believe my fist will do enough damage back then my but is going for a base ball bat or something that would probly end up putting me in jail.

Now I do have to say that I don't believe in a female being able to go crazy and hitting a guy and him not do something back. This situation I was talking about above was if a man hit a woman without her hitting him first. I believe that if I have enough balls to him a man then I shouldn't get mad if he hits me back. Please nobody be mad at me for saying this but that's just how I feel.

As for the cheating thing. There is NO WAY I would ever take back a cheater. I believe once a cheater, always a cheater.

Crystal

[ginab]

my theory is, if they love you they wouldnt do it.. i dont care how drunk you are.
its done goodbye.,,, see ya later...

[Kimberley]

Originally Posted by butterfly

I would never stay with any man that cheated on me. JMO I've forgiven enough other crap to let that slide.

hmmm...you got a point there!

[RLC12345678]

I've already told my hubby that if he ever cheats on me, I'm divorcing him and taking all of his money with me! I won't think twice about doing it either.