...............divorce?

Janet · 10-15-2006, 07:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Kimberley

The only thing I can suggest is COUNSELING. We went to church counseling earlier this year because of some issues that we were having. Things have been a lot better and we actually speak to each other now. Have you two thought about that?

My husband would NOT go with me at first but then he saw that I was serious about making it work and he did it to appease me at first but then we got a lot of issues out on the table and were able to work through them.

I sure hope everything works out for you Kimberley and that you are happy. I recommend counseling for everyone......what could it hurt? At least it's a trained professional that can help solve conflicts. Family and friends are just too close to be objective most of the time.

RLC12345678 · 10-15-2006, 10:19 AM

Janet is right......What can counseling hurt? That is great that he is willing and able to go to counseling. At least it will help him deal with his issues from his childhood. The fact that he is so willing to go means that he is willing to try to make this marriage work. Everyone learns behavior from somewhere. You leanred your excellent parenting skills from your parents. Unfortunately, your husband did not have that advantage. He learned his bad behavior from "the system." It really isn't his fault that he does not know how to be a good parent. You knew this coming into the marriage and in my opinion you should give him the opportunity to correct some of his bad behaviors before giving up on him. He has a disease that he needs help overcoming. Your children need their father in their life. I truly believe that if you don't give him a chance at least by trying marriage counseling, his disease is only going to get worse. You do not want your kids having a father like that in their lives because they are learning behaviors from not only you, but him as well. They need a loving, productive father in their life and the only way he is going to become this way is through professional help, which he probably won't get unless you are willing to go too.

10-15-2006, 10:19 AM	#2
RLC12345678 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,614	Janet is right......What can counseling hurt? That is great that he is willing and able to go to counseling. At least it will help him deal with his issues from his childhood. The fact that he is so willing to go means that he is willing to try to make this marriage work. Everyone learns behavior from somewhere. You leanred your excellent parenting skills from your parents. Unfortunately, your husband did not have that advantage. He learned his bad behavior from "the system." It really isn't his fault that he does not know how to be a good parent. You knew this coming into the marriage and in my opinion you should give him the opportunity to correct some of his bad behaviors before giving up on him. He has a disease that he needs help overcoming. Your children need their father in their life. I truly believe that if you don't give him a chance at least by trying marriage counseling, his disease is only going to get worse. You do not want your kids having a father like that in their lives because they are learning behaviors from not only you, but him as well. They need a loving, productive father in their life and the only way he is going to become this way is through professional help, which he probably won't get unless you are willing to go too. __________________ Rebecca "To whom much is given, much is expected." ~Luke 12:48

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