My Husband had an affair with "my best friend"

I feel bad that this has happened to you. I agree with what's already been said....ditch the 'friend' & try to go to counceling together. Try to dig out the 'why' behind the 'what' & work on mending the root of the problem.

You are a strong lady for trying to work it out, when so many men would simply walk away to proud to follow what their heart is telling them.

People do all sorts of things when they are going through rough times.....eat, drink, work out, etc. It sounds like you're like me as I too will open up that bottle of wine. BUT, you need a clear head. Something that I found helps me, when I'm working out an emotional situation or something is to simply GET AWAY!! What I mean is take some YOU time. If you can afford to, go on a vacation all by yourself. Get away from your daily duties (distractions) and spend some time thinking & working through your thoughts. If you can't do this, how about taking a day off & going for a long walk or a drive in the car into the country?