My Husband had an affair with "my best friend"

[Necee419]

Hi welcome to 4womentalk!! I am so sorry you had to go through this. I caught an ex-boyfriend of mine cheating on me with another girl and it was tough. i forgave him but I was never able to trust him after that. Eventually I broke up with him because I couldn't handle things. Every time he was late, or I didn't know where he was, I assumed he was out cheating. I took its toll on me emotionally and my self esteem was non-existent. I admire you for your courage to stick it out with your husband. However, I agree with the ladies that you both need counseling. You may forgive your husband but you will never forget the betrayal and those old insecurities will resurface the minute something happens. A professional can help you work through those feelings. Your husband also must take responsibility for his actions as well. Granted the lady sounds like a psycho but it takes two to tango and he NEVER should have betrayed you with her in the first place. Best of luck to you both and I hope you find a way to make peace in your relationship.

[khardy57]

I was cheated on by my first husband and gave him more than one second chance. First of all, you BOTH have to want the marriage to work. If so, he will agree to get help. Secondly, cut ties with the woman. I won't call her friend because she is undeserving of that title. If you have to, get your tel number changed and have it unlisted. Third, at his age he knew better! He'd have to really do some groveling to try to make it better.

I'll pray for you that God gives you the strength and courage to do what's right for YOU!