Disappointed in my mom

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I can sympathize with you here my mother had heart problems and was told to give up smoking. Many years ago my husband and father supported her to give up they succeeded but she at the time did not have the will power to give up. So carried on for about another 4 years thankfully one day she said enough and gave up. As to this day she will say she would like to go back but will not.

My in laws told us they had given up but we new they had not being a non smoker you can smell it straight away, they have both passed away within the past year with smoking related problems and whilst clearing out there house found evidence that they had never given up.

I have never smoked in my life so would not know how hard it would be but many say it is an addiction and like many addictions you have to have the will power.

I would say support you mum don't threaten not to see her as if any thing happened and you never saw her again you would never forgive your self.
May be write her a letter telling her how worried you are for her health and you love her and want her to see you with children and just hope one day she will have the will power like my mum. xxxx