Discipline

rivermom · 10-21-2006, 02:29 PM

It does seem disturbing that the majority of the "younger generation" today seems to not have the same characteristics as kids did before. Or maybe it's only the fact that as I age it seems to me this way?

I get so confused trying to figure out if it's really the kids changing or just me aging? It baffles me really.

It seems to me the world is so much in a hurry these days. I remember growing up having "family dinners around the table". I don't think you find that much anymore. Hurry, hurry, hurry...Stress, stress, stress...

Shoot, it wasn't a crime back when to "dicipline your kids", spank them in public when they got outta line. Now you do that and you find yourself on the 10:00 news. Or if that doesn't happen, kids themselves call "family services" and tell them that their parents abuse them. It's totally insane to me really.

I do find myself worring about the generations coming quite abit.

But, the bottom line is a child needs bounderies. It keeps them safe, lets them feel secure, and worthy. A undiciplined child is the same as an undicplined dog. Both totally out of control, unhappy, unsettled, and not comfortable within their surroundings.

Willow · 10-21-2006, 03:32 PM

We have four kids and we are strict with them. We use both spankings and loss of priveleges, and sometimes the behavior warrants both (like today I caught the oldest three in the boys bedroom closet tearing apart the bassinet we used for our youngest! Spankings and no tv for a week!!!)

We do not allow girls in boys room or boys in girls room, even though they are still young. We decided to establish that rule early, and until today, it is followed pretty well for the most part.

My kids are also spoiled to a degree. If we go shopping and they exhibit good behavior (stay close, hold on to the cart, no grabbing off shelves, no asking for what they see) then we MIGHT let them get something to take home for themselves. Sometimes it maybe a movie for them ALL to share or it may be a small toy. A 99 cent matchbox goes along way with my boys!!!

But say while we are checking out they start acting up. Then whatever they got is mine until they earn it back.

We get compliments on how well behaved our kids are when we go places. They say please and thank you and may I. They do talk back some, but there are consequences for that too! They KNOW they have to behave in a positive manner or they get spanked. I HAVE spanked in public. That is one nice thing about living in Ohio...SPANKING IS LEGAL!!!! AND if an outsider interferes with a parent disciplining their child it IS punishable by STATE LAW. As long as it isn't abuse, obviously. But say I give one of my kids a swat on the bottom in Walmart and another shopper gets upset...too bad!! I can literally have them arrested for interferring with disciplining my child.

Lindsey · 10-21-2006, 03:42 PM

I have no kids myself, but I remember growing up and seeing my cousins running around doing what they wanted, and I was jealous. Now, one of them had to go to a juvenile detention center when he was 14, his younger brother got taken away from the family because of the dysfunction, and the oldest, a girl my age, was on drugs at an early age and now has 2 children she is raising by herself. She and I are closer now and she has cleaned up completely, but I see her raising her children the same way she was raised. Sometimes her two year old daughter is still awake at 1 or 2 in the morning! She is trying, but she hasn't had any good examples in her life on how to raise children.

khardy57 · 10-28-2006, 03:20 PM

My sons are grown now, also. You know you did a good job when they come back to you and say "Thank you, Mama, for raising me like you did"

Both of mine have done that at different times. I raised them alone for 10 years and felt like I had to do a better job than parents who raised their kids together.

When they needed their rear-ends popped, it happened. I also didn't like it when girls called them. I guess I was old fashioned, but when I was growing up only trashy girls called boys.

Janet · 10-28-2006, 03:27 PM

My son is 15 and so far I haven't had to worry about girls calling. He's had just a couple call...but when they do they'll ask for Rick and I have to say which one...that's my husband's name too....LOL

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10-21-2006, 02:29 PM	#1
rivermom Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Tontitown, Arkansas Posts: 2,475	It does seem disturbing that the majority of the "younger generation" today seems to not have the same characteristics as kids did before. Or maybe it's only the fact that as I age it seems to me this way? I get so confused trying to figure out if it's really the kids changing or just me aging? It baffles me really. It seems to me the world is so much in a hurry these days. I remember growing up having "family dinners around the table". I don't think you find that much anymore. Hurry, hurry, hurry...Stress, stress, stress... Shoot, it wasn't a crime back when to "dicipline your kids", spank them in public when they got outta line. Now you do that and you find yourself on the 10:00 news. Or if that doesn't happen, kids themselves call "family services" and tell them that their parents abuse them. It's totally insane to me really. I do find myself worring about the generations coming quite abit. But, the bottom line is a child needs bounderies. It keeps them safe, lets them feel secure, and worthy. A undiciplined child is the same as an undicplined dog. Both totally out of control, unhappy, unsettled, and not comfortable within their surroundings. __________________ ~_/> , /\/\ ,,, Sheryl When I grow up I want to be a horse whisperer!

10-21-2006, 03:42 PM	#3
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	I have no kids myself, but I remember growing up and seeing my cousins running around doing what they wanted, and I was jealous. Now, one of them had to go to a juvenile detention center when he was 14, his younger brother got taken away from the family because of the dysfunction, and the oldest, a girl my age, was on drugs at an early age and now has 2 children she is raising by herself. She and I are closer now and she has cleaned up completely, but I see her raising her children the same way she was raised. Sometimes her two year old daughter is still awake at 1 or 2 in the morning! She is trying, but she hasn't had any good examples in her life on how to raise children. __________________ Lindsey "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it..." -Marilyn Monroe

10-28-2006, 03:27 PM	#5
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	My son is 15 and so far I haven't had to worry about girls calling. He's had just a couple call...but when they do they'll ask for Rick and I have to say which one...that's my husband's name too....LOL __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

10-21-2006, 03:32 PM	#2
Willow Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 258	We have four kids and we are strict with them. We use both spankings and loss of priveleges, and sometimes the behavior warrants both (like today I caught the oldest three in the boys bedroom closet tearing apart the bassinet we used for our youngest! Spankings and no tv for a week!!!) We do not allow girls in boys room or boys in girls room, even though they are still young. We decided to establish that rule early, and until today, it is followed pretty well for the most part. My kids are also spoiled to a degree. If we go shopping and they exhibit good behavior (stay close, hold on to the cart, no grabbing off shelves, no asking for what they see) then we MIGHT let them get something to take home for themselves. Sometimes it maybe a movie for them ALL to share or it may be a small toy. A 99 cent matchbox goes along way with my boys!!! But say while we are checking out they start acting up. Then whatever they got is mine until they earn it back. We get compliments on how well behaved our kids are when we go places. They say please and thank you and may I. They do talk back some, but there are consequences for that too! They KNOW they have to behave in a positive manner or they get spanked. I HAVE spanked in public. That is one nice thing about living in Ohio...SPANKING IS LEGAL!!!! AND if an outsider interferes with a parent disciplining their child it IS punishable by STATE LAW. As long as it isn't abuse, obviously. But say I give one of my kids a swat on the bottom in Walmart and another shopper gets upset...too bad!! I can literally have them arrested for interferring with disciplining my child.

10-28-2006, 03:20 PM	#4
khardy57 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 278	My sons are grown now, also. You know you did a good job when they come back to you and say "Thank you, Mama, for raising me like you did" Both of mine have done that at different times. I raised them alone for 10 years and felt like I had to do a better job than parents who raised their kids together. When they needed their rear-ends popped, it happened. I also didn't like it when girls called them. I guess I was old fashioned, but when I was growing up only trashy girls called boys.

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