What Did You Do Today?

[Janet]

On Betsi, I'm sad to read that your son has CHF. He's so young! I hope he will follow Drs. orders and does everything he can to make his life easier and longer.

Gary doing better Gayle? I hope he is still enjoying his fishing.

Judy it's good to read that Brandon is home. I am praying so hard for him for good results. How frightening for all of you.

JChins are so darn cute. 3 dogs are a lot of work Judy, house training again. I just keep asking myself...what was I thinking getting 5. I must be nuts..lol

[gja1000]

Gary is better today. He peed out about 10 lbs of water so while he is breathing better, he's a bit wrung out. But of course he went fishing this afternoon. I don't think they will stay out long. They are going to set out some jug lines and fish a little for catfish, but I think they'll be in early. We are going to fix hobo dinners and s'mores over the campfire tonight.

[DianaB]

I'm glad to hear that Gary's feeling better. Ten pounds of water.....WOW!! You do such a good job of staying on top of his health!! I hope he can catch a whopper!!! Wouldn't that make his day?

Oh, Betsi, I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Doesn't it seem like all of our families are dealing with so much? I hope he takes good care of himself!!

Judy, Big Sigh.......finally, hopefully, they've found out what Brandon's problem is. Let us know what the results are.

I'm not going to go into detail about what's been going on here but let me put it this way........I'm so ready to leave!! It's not Damon.....it's Glen.

Oh.....and Glen's brother, Mark, is hiring Damon to go back to work for him. Dae Lynn and Damon are pleased about that. Personally, I wish that he would go to work in a normal workplace.......but then again, he might not be able to stay with a day to day job.

[Janet]

Well now....you need to get away huh...I know a dear friend of yours that will be on spring break the last week of March and I'm so positive she would love to see you!!

[DianaB]

I would love to come but I don't think that this is the time to do it. Thanks so much for the offer though. I do know that I'm welcome any time and I will take you up on it sometime.

Yesterday was better. I think that Glen had time to think over his attitude and was much better. They all went down to the garden and got it planted yesterday. I didn't go down......I stayed up here at the house and watched kids and had supper ready when they finished.

I bought one of those Shark steamers for floors and I tried it yesterday......I loved it!! The one I got will also come apart and is a hand held steamer as well. The floors felt so clean when I was done!! However.....today I am so sore!!

Today I have some time to myself.....Dae Lynn, Damon, and the kids went over to see Damon's Dad and pick up some things that Damon wants to keep. Damon's Dad is getting married soon (he was having an affair before Margaret passed away and they hadn't gotten along for years) and Damon wants to get what he wants before the "new" woman moves in. Their family is having some big problems over all of this and I can understand. Damon's had a lot to deal with since he's gotten out of jail.

I have a jewelry party to go to this afternoon. Love jewelry!!!

[judy]

I am glad to hear that Glen has calmed down a bit, Diana. It's hard to watch your little girl suffer for a Dad!

And, it is great that he has a job!!!It may not be what you want for him, but it is a beginning.

Brandon is feeling better today. Jessie thinks he is milking it a bit. It's good to be the Grandma....I don't live there! We have not gotten his tests back yet.

He also had the rash he has been getting again. It may not be related to the appendix. I sure hope it is! There is a test they are waiting for to see if the rashes are some other syndrome. There is medication for that, so I am not all that worried. Again, it is good to be the Grandma! I do not worry so much. I also know, from having lived through all of these crises, that they get solved, go away, or you just learn how to live with them.

[judy]

Janet, I was just reading back posts and see that Ricky is moving soon. Gosh, I remember when Jessie moved to her own apaartment. It was actually nice, but I have never seen anyone live in such a mess! Half of her bed was filled with clean laundry that had never been put away. Then, clean clothes would end up in there, and she would forever be doing pounds of laundry. I doubt if she ever washed the dishes. She probably threw them away when the sink got full, and bought paper plate.

Thank goodness she learned how to keep house! She would have lost the children somewhere in the laundry if she kept her house like she kept that apartment.

She did move back home for a while, and then met and moved in with Steve. I left her room as is for a full year just in case she came back again. Just as I was getting off the step ladder I was using to clean the shelves off, the phone rang. "I'm moving back home, Mom! I can't stand Steve!" She did not come back home, but I laughed at that for a long time!

Don't worry about Ricky's living conditions too much. It is his problem, and he will figure it out. You raised him well, and you just have to have faith in him. I found prayer helped a lot too!

It all works itself out!

[Blueyes]

Thanks for your concern for Dustin, everybody. The doc told him it won't get any better until somebody figures out what is going on with his lungs. He is now going to a doc at the University of Washington that specializes in lung disorders. He has been having tons of tests, and last week the doc told him he may have Mitrochondrial Disease. Of course there will have to be more tests to determine that for sure. Dustin hasn't been able to work for a while, but Joy is an ICU nurse and they get by on her salary. She is a good nurse, but she is really freaked out by the fact that Dustin is sick. She's having a hard time handling it. They are just too young to have to deal with this.

This morning I finished my shutters, and the house looks so much better. I didn't really want a metal roof, but Mike did and now I like it a lot, lol! Then we got in my car, put the top down and just took off We ended up in Shreveport...it's just about 45 minutes NE of us...and ate Italian food. The we rode through some car lots just looking. Mike's Expedition has 140,000 miles on it, and we have to take it in on Monday to have the transmission worked on. We are thinking of a smaller SUV that gets better gas mileage. Any ideas, anybody?

[judy]

Poor Dustin! His wife will get used to it soon, I hope.

[Janet]

Judy, I think...and think is the magic word here, that Ricky may be putting off the moving in with a friend thing for awhile. We found a really nice place that Ricky may be able to buy. It's everything that he would need and he loves it. Here is a link.... http://tours.tourfactory.com/tours/t...y.com&t=834478

He loves everything about it, hard wood flooring and 2 garages, plus another small outbuilding with heat and air. It's about all he can think about. If he has a friend move in with him it would be even better.

If it doesn't work out for Ricky to get it, then we may purchase it. I know... I know...but everything we have will be completely paid off in June of next year. Right now,the two rental homes pay the mortgage on the one rental, our home is paid off. Now we are getting a bit more money in our account so things are easing up a bit, finally. As long as Ricky makes his payments (if we buy it) then everything is good. So far he loves his new job. Comes home and talks about all the oil changes, tire changes, brakes,etc. that he did. He loves working on vehicles and working with his hands.

It's all in the thinking stages right now...so hopefully it can work out some way. He doesn't want to live in a town, he's use to the country with not so close neighbors...lol so this would be perfect. Plus, it's on the road just to the south of us (which he uses to drive to work) only it's 4 miles east of us.

[DIANE W]

Oh Janet....... I love it, can i move in instead please?????????????

I think it is a brilliant idea, it looks just perfect for him, he will be able to do all his tinkering with cars etc, that he enjoys doing in those outbuildings, what a fantastic price too.

I hope it all works out to suit everyone. In an ideal world it would work out if he could afford to get it himself, and get a start on the property ladder, however if he cant get mortgage himself, and he is sure about living there and you can buy it yourself, then let him rent from you, that could work out well for all concerned.

Also it isnt too far away from home..... and there looks like plenty of room for him to take his dogs too

He is very lucky to have a good Mum and Dad, that are prepared to do such a thing for him.... make sure he understands that wont you

[DianaB]

Judy, I'm so sorry to hear that Brandon's dealing with the rash again. I hope that it's just a residual effect from the appendix or something easily fixed.

Betsi, Your son is so young to have these problems. I hope your daughter-in-law can help him with his medical care......like Gayle. There is so much that she knows that will be so useful for him. I do hope that they find that things are better than is expected. Poor Dustin.

What a cute house, Janet!! Perfect for Ricky and so close to you!!!......Well, when you live in the country four miles IS close!! I'm sure that he's excited about it!! Of course, finding a friend to help out with utilities and pay some rent would be perfect!! Fingers are crossed!!

We're having a nice slow day!! Glen took some church kids fishing so he's not around......Dae Lynn, Damon, and the kids went for a walk.......Jaci's here but she's out doing something with Kera......so I have the whole house to myself!! Yay!! I'm enjoying the peace and quiet.

Glen and I went out to eat last night and we talked about the situation with Damon. We have such different points of view. He is so against Damon. I don't understand him. Glen has changed so much. Did anyone have an answer about male menopause? Guess I'll have to look it up on the internet and see if I can find anything about it.

[gja1000]

Judy, I hope Brandon gets better every day!

Diana, I'm sorry that Glen is not doing well with Damon - I don't think I would either. It would be so hard for me to give him another chance. But I hope for your sake that Glen comes around.

Janet, it is so great that Ricky may get to buy that house (or live there). Yes, it is wonderful and I know you are excited!

Betsi, I'm so sorry that Dustin has so many health problems. And they are so right, having lung problems really complicates the heart problems and visa versa. Gary is fighting heart and lung problems too. Gary will never qualify for a heart transplant because of his diabetes and kidney problems, but if he did, he'd have to have a heart and lung transplant. It just boggles my mind. I sure hope they find out what is wrong with him and I hope they can find a solution so that he can have better health. I know his wife is freaked out, but she will come around and be able to deal with it. I know she will.

I'm home from the lake and Gary is feeling better. He is going to come home tomorrow and stay till Wednesday. He has a doctor's appt on Wed. and it is supposed to rain tomorrow and Tuesday, so he's just going to come home for a couple of days. I feel better when I am with him. He'll go back to the lake Wednesday afternoon, and I'll go out Friday afternoon.

[DIANE W]

Diana... I feel for you all going through this difficult time. Please dont let Damon come between you, You are obviously a very kind and forgiving person, we are all different and obviously Glenn is a little less so, but i have to say i would find it quite hard too.

Glenn probably sees all the problems from a Dad point of view and would think his little girl deserves so much better. I think men generally think very differently than us women.... he maybe can turn off his feelings for Damon, where as you are trying to understand him, forgive him, and give him another chance, for Dae Lynn's sake too.

Imagine if you can that you are advising a friend, and were not personally involved - What would you advise your best friend if she were in your shoes????????

[judy]

That house is fantastic, Janet! What a great deal for Ricky, and only 4 miles from you! It looks brand new....? I hope it works out!

I am glad to hear that Gary is feeling better, Gayle. I would also feel better when he is around! Then, you don't have to worry so much.

Betsi, I am so sad about Dustin. It is very hard when your child is ill....I know how I worry about Jessie's MS. He is in my prayers.

Diana, I went to Alanon years ago because I could not deal with my SIL's alcoholism. It helped me a great deal. I can understand Glen's feelings, especially since Damon is living there. Would Glen consider going to Alanon? Probably not, since men are more resistant than women to these types of things. They have some very good publications. Maybe you can read some, and it might help you talk to Glen. One thing I did learn there was to detach from the problem, but not from the person. There are other things to love about Damon, I am sure. Steve is not drinking now, but he does fall back every so often. It is disruptive to himself, Jessie, the children, and me, but I have learned to love him around that problem. I do keep away a lot when he is drinking though. He is not a nice drunk, like many alcoholics. Another thing I learned was "one day at a time." I am so sorry for all of you.

Brandon was not feeling better yesterday. I can't get Jessie on the phone, so I don't know what is going on. For all I know, they went to the doctor, or he feels better. I hate when she does that!