How would you handle this?

[Necee419]

I agree about the apology having to be heartfelt, but also maybe you can have the offended child tell the offender how he felt when she called him that mean name. Maybe if she sees how hurt the other child was, she will apologize on her own.

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Willow

I do not allow name calling in our home. We haven't had any problems with it until today. My daughter just called her brother a stupid idiot. I know it could have been worse, you know, more vulgar names, but still, uncalled for!

I called her out and asked who she was calling a stupid idiot and she said "I didn't" but I heard her plain as day, so now she is lying on top of it! I then said, "then why did you say it" to which she replies "I didn't mean it."

I think my mom would have used soap. I made my daughter put her nose on the wall and she is standing there now crying.

Has anyone else dealt with the name calling?

I remember years ago when the kids were little that the word "stupid" was a bad word in our house and not allowed to be used. Honestly I cannot recall the dicipline that was used. But...I will say now as they are all adults but one that the names used now are soooooooooo much worse. UGH!!

[Willow]

Originally Posted by rivermom

I remember years ago when the kids were little that the word "stupid" was a bad word in our house and not allowed to be used. Honestly I cannot recall the dicipline that was used. But...I will say now as they are all adults but one that the names used now are soooooooooo much worse. UGH!!

Yea, kind of not what I am looking forward to. I hope my kids grow up and are close like my brothers and I are. My husbands side of the family argue and call eachother disgusting names and are very hurtful to eachother.

I talked to my mom. She said when we were kids and we called names she had us apologize and hug and kiss and she made us tell eachother that we loved eachother. It must have worked, because my brothers and I are very close, even though we live forever apart. And we hug ALOT now! without being told!

[Janet]

Looks like you've gotten some pretty good advice....kids will learn..it just takes some time and is best done by example. When your in-laws start doing this, perfect time to let the kids know that this is not how caring family and friends talk with one another.