Prayers for my Dad

[2tiredmom]

Thanks everyone. Dad is in the Nursing home now. He is taking therapy twice a day for 6 days. Then rest on Sunday. The first couple of days there were tough. He didn't remember being in the Hospital and having surgery. My brother seems to think he can go bck to living by himself. THere is noway. Only time will tell. Thanks again everyone for your support.

[JJJ]

I'm sure everyone is relief his in a safe place. XOXO

[Janet]

What nursing home is he in Linda? I think your brother is in denial, don't you think? As times goes on and he gets reports from the staff, he come to realize that it wouldn't be safe for your dad to be anywhere else. I'm sorry you have to go through this. ((((hugs))))

[2tiredmom]

Janet, Dad is at Clinton House. SThey called my brother today at 2 saying that dad had a dr appt in lafayette with a specialist at 4. My brother drives a semi. They never called me. SO it upset him so he told them to call his wife. They did and they said they would call back with more info. They never did. So tina my sil called again and they took him by ambulance to Lafayette to ER>>>>>>He has an infection of his prosrate from the cathiter from the hospital. he was not in any pain and was not complaining. I'm a little torked that they never called me. SO when I got home I called them to find out why and of course got the run around. SO there goes more money out for an ambulance run there and back. Don't mean to vent. Just tired of all the crap Old people have to go though....

[Janet]

Linda, this is somewhat the norm when they are in a nursing home, especially when there are siblings. They are suppose to have a main person to call. Does he have a power of attorney and one for his medical? It's so hard when our parents age and for me....I just didn't know who to call.

Gayle was a Godsend for me with information and then others that had experience with this type of thing were also a great help. If you need me for anything or just want to talk...call me anytime, I'm usually always here of an evening.

[gja1000]

Oh Linda, I can so relate. I would be VERY upset too and I would be at that nursing home, meeting with the director, the director of nursing, the social worker and anyone else I could meet with. That just cannot happen!!! I think Medicare will pay for the ambulance, but it was unnecessary, if they had just notified the family in a timely manner. That is unacceptable. The best way to get things done is to make your voice known. Go to the NH, meet with everyone, make sure they know who you are. If you want to get things done, you have to make some noise. I wish it weren't like that, but it is.

[2tiredmom]

Thanks again ladies. Janet. I have all the paper work. We did all the paper work before my mom died back in 2006. I am the one that had it all done and paid for it. All the medical papers and poa. My brother is on all of it too.
Gayle I am the one that talked to all of the people the first time he went in and this time too. So they know me and they have my numbers. They just made excuses as to why they didn't call me.
I made noise so there better not be anymore problems but I won't hold my breath either. They just kept passing the buck. I just can't get down there unless they give me a few hours notice since I live 2 1/2 hours away.

[Janet]

Since your brother is on the paperwork too, how does that work? You both can make the decisions? What if you don't agree? I didn't mean to be nosey, but with me and my two brothers, it would have been to hard to come to an agreement so Mom left me in charge of all of it.

The advice you rec'd from the others was right on. Make sure they know you are on top of things and won't put up with excuses. If things don't work out there at Clinton House, Mulberry has a great place for people suffering from dementia. You can always switch if they have room.

You're in my thoughts and prayers Linda!

[DianaB]

I agree with Janet. If the NH isn't going to let you know in advance of appointments and what's going on then I would check into another one. There's no reason to send out an ambulance to go to an appointment when all they needed to do was let the family know in advance. Let them know that if something like that happens again that you'll be moving him......that you EXPECT communication with you or your brother!!!!

[2tiredmom]

ok I give up. They had my dad to the ER twice in 24 hrs. Come to find out he fell.
I am calling tomorrow to talk to the director of nursing. I wish i lived closer but i don't i am sure i will get the runaround and if i do we will make sure he gets to go somewhere else.2012 is really starting to SUCK. Sorry. there i go again.

[Blueyes]

I'm so sorry he fell. How is he? In Texas, all falls have to be reported to the family, no matter how minor. You can also sign something that says they can't take them to the hospital without your permission.

Janet, on my parents MPOA, I made the decisions unless I wasn't able to be reached, then my brother did it. We were both on the papers.

[Janet]

I wondered how that worked....thanks Betsi.

Linda...Mulberry is so much better than Clinton House, plus, it's closer to the Lafayette Hospitals. It's always ones personal preference, but Clinton House wasn't even on our list to choose from. I don't mean that to be rude, but it's not one of the better ones. We did have Mom in Milner's at Rossville for about a week before she was sent to the hospital and passed and I've regretted it ever since. She rec'd much better, compassionate care at Mulberry.

[DianaB]

I hope you're able to accomplish something when you call, Linda. I would be so upset too. I think that I'd be checking into moving him.

[judy]

How awful, Linda! I hope you get all this straightened out without a lot of aggravation!

[JJJ]

If your not happy with him in there, move him ASAP. Let them know that is unacceptable.