What's Going On........

[2tiredmom]

Diana,
I just got back on here today. You and your family are in my prayers. God only gives
you what he knows you can handle. You are a strong person. God Bless you.

[DianaB]

Thanks so much, Linda.

Well......Dae Lynn's going to move back with Damon one of these days. We're not sure when. Glen's not happy and is being an absolute bear about it but then he's a bear most of the time lately.

There is a house nearby that's for sale and they went and looked at it the other day. Dae Lynn said that she really thought it was too small and that she really wasn't interested but she came home really excited about it. I'm going to go and look at it with her this afternoon so I'm really curious about it. The yard is just beautiful!! There are flowers planted all around the edges of the yard and the river runs along one side. There's a bridge that crosses the river in front of the house so it's built really high above the river. When we had the really bad flood a few years ago....that house didn't get wet. So the kids are talking about buying it. Damon's Dad received insurance money when his Mom died and the kids all get a share of it......we hope. That's what they're planning on using for the down payment and hopefully, Damon's Dad will keep his word that he'll give them the money......if he doesn't.......well, the kids won't be able to get it.

The house is right down the road from Glen's brother, Mark, that Damon works for. It will be really handy for Damon to get to work since he can't drive. We found out that he'll get his license back in a year or two. He hasn't had one since Dae Lynn and he have been married.

Dae Lynn and Damon have been getting along but realize that living separately makes it harder on their marriage. Damon has been doing very good......no drinking, but he has gone for long periods before.......he's a binge drinker. We have a program that started in town with one of the churches that is called "Project Celebration". It doesn't have many people because it's just started but is for any kind of problem a person has in their life......not just drugs and alcohol. Dae Lynn went with Damon on Monday night and was really impressed with the program. For her it's getting help with dealing with Damon and his problems. Hopefully it will help them together. Damon's a nice guy. I DO like him but it hurts me to see my daughter hurt. I think that he's upset with me......and Glen for tossing him out but hopefully it was a lesson on how serious we are about lying and some of his problems. I also hope that through all of this he realizes how close he's come to losing his family and that will help him to do better.

Dae Lynn found out that her schooling is going to cost a LOT more than she thought it was going to. She was going to a satellite school of a private university. She's decided to wait another year and then drive to another college. It will cost more to drive but the tuition will be a lot cheaper. She's pretty upset by it all but it will work out for the best. God has a way of doing that!!

[Janet]

Dae Lynn has to do what she thinks is best for her and her children. Only she will know when it's time to totally cut it off with him. Maybe this will be the time that works and it would have been a shame if she hadn't tried one more time...especially since she loves him.

Maybe she just thought the house looked too small until she saw the inside. I sure hope Damon's dad follows through on his promise to share the money. That would be so nice to use on the house.

I feel bad for her that the schooling isn't working out for her at this time. But as we all know, there must be a reason....a better plan.

[DIANE W]

Diana.... As i have said in previous posts i feel so sorry for Dae Lynn and her situation, i agree with Janet it is only her that can make the decision to try again - i hope he doesnt hurt her again.

Glen is just probably so upset about her giving him another chance, i can sort of understand it if i am honest - i am not as forgiving as i think you are Diana, but then when you are involved and have a relationship with him, that has to alter your feelings for him, and as you said you do like him, just not what he had done.

I hope everything works out for them and you, as if they do move out and start their own lives independently, it will ease homelife for you a little, you can get your home back.

I really hope Dae Lynn and Damon make a go of it for everyones sake, including the kids, and that his Dad lives upto his promise of the money.

[judy]

I am glad that Dae Lynn and Damon are going to give it another try. They do have children together, and you just never know what people are going to do. Damon may find the strength within himself to turn it around. This group sounds very good. Support groups are so helpful in these types of problems.

I will pray for them.

[DianaB]

Thanks everyone. I really hope that things are better for the two of them this time. He should know this time that she really means that she'll leave him if it happens again and I really do think that he loves her. It's just going to take some time for the family to get used to the idea and accept him. He is still a very sore spot with some of the family which I don't like. I sure hope that "time heals all wounds" because this is going to take a LONG time for everyone to get over.

I got to see the house today.......it's nice but still an old house. It has a new bedroom that's been added on and is nice. The house has only one bathroom but there's room in the back to add on another one......and the kitchen is VERY small, but can be opened up into the dining area. It has possibilities. Damon has helped some people at church remodel a home and he did a really good job so hopefully if they get this he'll be able to do some of the work himself. I hope that they can work things out where they can get it!!

[Janet]

I hope so too Diana. Dae Lynn wants it to work and I want her to be happy.

[DianaB]

Grrrrrrr..........I get SO tired of Glen's attitude about Damon!!! They are going to KC tonight and staying a couple of nights and he is upset over THAT!! Every little thing they do he's upset over. Things were better for awhile........when I was upset with Damon too but now that I'm not we're at odds with each other. He's almost mean about things. My stress had gotten better but I've felt it come right back. Glen is usually so loving and forgiving but not about Damon. It's so out of character for him. I really wonder if he's going through male menopause.......he's so different from what he has been in the past.

[Janet]

Can the two of you get away so you can talk about it? Maybe get to the root of what's making him so angry? Maybe it's other things too and since Damon hurt his daughter, he's taking it out on him. Whatever it is, I'm sure he doesn't like feeling mean....you need to speak with him Diana.

[DianaB]

I just end up getting upset with him when we talk about Damon so right now it's best just to avoid talking to him about it. I think that Dae Lynn will move out before too long and hopefully that will make things better. I think that just seeing and hearing the every day things makes him upset. They both had a talk this morning and I stayed in the living room and out of the conversation. I'm afraid that only time will make things better. Who knows......when Dae Lynn moves out I just might go with her!!! Not really but sometimes I think that I might!!!!

[Janet]

I hope that Glenn can see that being upset and angry isn't helping him or his health. There are just some things we have no control over and we can't always make our kids see things the way we think they should see them.

If and when Dae Lynn decides to move back with Damon, I also hope the family will give him a chance. There is something good in this young man if Dae Lynn can see it.

[DianaB]

Ok.....Glen's doing better. I told him that he was being very unforgiving and accused him of being like his MOTHER!! He didn't like that one!! Dae Lynn and I can both tell that his attitude is better about the situation. I'm glad. I truly hope that Damon never does another thing wrong. LOL

[Janet]

That's great news Diana. Guess being like his mother kind of slapped him with a big of reality huh? Sometimes that's what it takes. I hope Damon too know how lucky he is to have you all.

[DianaB]

Thank you, Janet. That means a lot!!

[Janet]

Speaking of Glenn's mother...has anyone gone through her house yet? I remember being in there and how fun it would be ....just like at a flea market only better...lol.