What's Going On........

[DianaB]

I thought that I'd just start a new post on all of this instead of putting it in what I was doing every day.

Dae Lynn's been talking to Damon on the phone in the evenings and things just keep getting worse. It's just showing her that things are really over and is actually helping her make her decisions. She was going to wait to file because things have been happening so fast but the way things are progressing she's going to go ahead. She's ready to get out and we're ready for her to be done.

The hard part is still Karlie and it's just breaking our hearts. We're going to do all we can to keep her but we have to leave it in God's hands. Dae Lynn is working with her on memorizing her phone number in case she'll ever need it. Our school counselor said he had a student once with a smiliar case and the step-mom who was a stripper took the student from the school......and the step-mom never got to tell her good-bye but the student went back to the step-mom when she was a teenager and finished school with her.

Damon's been throwing his weight around with Karlie. The schhol counselor is planning on talking to Karlie and Damon found out about it from a conversation Dae Lynn had with his sister. He was furious!!!

We found out that Damon is staying at Mark's house but is sleeping outside in a tent. We're a little concerned because Mark doesn't live too far from us. We're locking the house up at night and have Jason and Feyn on alert in case of any problems. We worry that he could be watching us from outside at night. We don't know that he is but it's a concern.

Bits and pieces are coming out that people have known and none of it is good. Dae Lynn has a friend that spent some time with Damon the other day when they put up the swingset and he said that Damon belongs in a mental hospital. He's going to tell Dae Lynn exactly what Damon said whenever they can get together.

Sigh......Things are a little crazy and I'm sorry that it's all so long to read. Actually things are pretty calm here. I think that Dae Lynn is convinced that this is the right thing to do and we are all supporting her.......even the friends that she's told. Just keep us in your prayers.

[gja1000]

Diana, you are very wise to be cautious. The friend who helped Damon set up the swing set picked up something from or about Damon, and I think his words are very important. I feel so sad for all of, this is so stressful. I clearly remember the tension when my mom mad dad divorced when I was three, well I don't remember when they divorced but he came to see me once afterward when we were living with my grandparents and I think my grandma was afraid of him because I remember the tension in the house when he came to visit. It was very upsetting. He never came again.

I hope you can get this all resolved quickly. The longer it drags out the harder and more complicated it might get.

[DIANE W]

Diana i have been worrying how things were going, I am sure Dae Lynn is going through a terrifying time, as are you all, but i do feel for her so much.

I cant imaging what it feesl like, i am sure all will work out for the best in the end, but i think it is going to be a very bumpy ride for a while. It is not like you are dealing with a sensible person, and he knows Karlie is your weakness too.

Diana just be very careful, and be cautious as well.

God bless you all.

[Janet]

I think you're right Diane for the family to be cautious. You never know what is going to break a person and the things they are capable of doing. You read of these things in the paper all the time. I'm glad you're keeping your doors locked Diana...I worry so much about all of you.

[JJJ]

Please be careful, you just never really know.

[judy]

This is so sad, Diana. It would have been wonderful if Damon had gone to rehab, and come home to be a good husband and father. Some things are not meant to be, I guess.

I have you all in my prayers. It would be best if Karlie could stay with Dae Lynn. You probably could have him declared unfit as a father, but then her mother would get involved, wouldn't she? Does she want Karlie?

All in all, I wish Damon well, but if only he had stepped up and acted like a man!

[DianaB]

Damon demanded at first that he was going to have Karlie for the weekend but ended up letting her chose who she wanted to be with because he knows we have a big Easter picnic. She ended up choosing Damon because she was missing him and she knows that something is going on.

Damon's sister came and got him then they came and got Karlie. Damon wanted to see Dean and spent less than 5 minutes with him. Karlie did have a good time with Damon and his sister and her family. I'm glad. We were worried for Karlie. He ended up keeping her last night because the kids didn't have school today and he brought her back this morning before he went to work. He bought her some gifts......nothing for Dean........and didn't even ask to see him either.

Dae Lynn's taken papers into the lawyer's office and is ready to file. She talked to the lawyer a little bit and will talk to him again before they serve Damon. She was going to wait but doesn't want Damon to get the jump on her and get custody of Dean while all of this is going on.

[judy]

I can't believe he doesn't want to see Dean!

I am praying that this works out for the best for everyone Diana.

[DianaB]

Thanks, Judy.

Glen went into town to talk to the sheriff......just in case there is any problem then he is aware of the situation. Glen's a little concerned because Damon was watching YouTube videos of hand to hand combat and how to disarm a person plus he has his military training. He warned Dae Lynn and I to be careful. He probably won't cause trouble but it doesn't hurt to be prepared. The only way he'll be trouble in my opinion is if he starts drinking.

[judy]

Diana, do you keep a gun in the house that you know how to use? I think that he will certainly start drinking again. He'll blame Dae Lynn, you and Glen too. Regardless, better safe than sorry.

He will get arrested again soon enough, and end up in jail again. At least he'll be out of the way for a while!

[DianaB]

Yes, we have some and they are ready in case of an emergency. I would hope that they would never be used though.

We just had Damon's parole officer here. She is suppose to check out the residences of the parolees and she wasn't happy that Damon wasn't actually living here but in a tent and that he hadn't contacted her about it. He's going to be in trouble for that. We spent some time with her going over what he's allowed and not allowed to do. She cautioned us to contact the sheriff if we have any problems because then it will go across her desk and she'll be aware of any problems. She was very nice.

[judy]

Good to know that she is available! Does Damon check in with her?

How is Karlie doing?

[DianaB]

Karlie is doing fine. Last week after Damon left she would listen to a book that he did for her with his voice reading it......over and over. She was also cried easily. One afternoon she sat on the swing and cried......Dean came in and told me "Sissy hurt" but when I went out she was just crying for her Daddy.

This weekend she's staying with Dae Lynn. Damon's going to his sisters but he's leaving Karlie with us.

Dae Lynn went and talked to him last night and told him that she was filing. She's mostly doing it so that Damon can't get Dean during the divorce. He's lost a lot of weight and I guess he looks bad. She came home feeling pretty bad and upset. She's really questioning what she's doing. Yesterday was really hard on her. I can understand why.....it sounds so trivial that we caught him lying about such piddly things.......but that's not the problem.....it's the lies. Sigh.....this is all hard!! I feel for her and I feel for Damon.......and the kids.

Damon's parole officer called and talked to him and he has a week to find a house to live in. She understood what was going on and I'm glad that she gave him some time.

[JJJ]

I feel so bad for kids when stuff likes this happens. I don't regret never going after my ex and asking for one single penny. I know it's different scenario than your family issue but never less painful for kids. Kids only have one childhood and it shouldn't come with problems like this.

[judy]

I agree Jessica. My first ex left when Jessie was 7 months old. He cheated on me, and was a pathetic huma being. He sent $50/month for a while, and when it stopped, I didn't care. I just wanted him out of my life. He would have been a really bad person for Jessie to grow up around!

He is now an alcoholic, and Jessie stopped talking to him years ago. Some people just have to be walked away from.