A man Reading Or Watching Porn

[rivermom]

There has been a lot of talk by us women on this forum about our feelings on their male partner watching or reading porn. Some of us don't mind and others feel it has caused friction in their own marriage.

It would be nice to read about the man's perspective towards this. I thank you in advance for your comments on this subject.

As a man....What are your feelings towards this. If you are married, do you feel it is just normal male behavior to read/watch porn and has no attachement to the marriage?

[A Man]

Originally Posted by rivermom

There has been a lot of talk by us women on this forum about our feelings on their male partner watching or reading porn. Some of us don't mind and others feel it has caused friction in their own marriage.

It would be nice to read about the man's perspective towards this. I thank you in advance for your comments on this subject.

As a man....What are your feelings towards this. If you are married, do you feel it is just normal male behavior to read/watch porn and has no attachement to the marriage?

Most men like porn, not all men, but most. In this man's experience, he has yet to meet a man, gay or straight, that does NOT like porn. This man is sure there are men out there that do not like porn. The porn industry is huge and that is because there is a lot of demand for it. Some say the porn industry is responsible for the widespread adoption of VHS tapes, DVD, as well as the use of the Internet.

But being addicted to porn and needing to look at it all the time is not good for any person, just like any other addiction, be it smoking, drugs, or alcohol.

If a man's significant other does not approve of the man looking at porn, the man needs to make a choice and either respect his mate's wishes, or secretly look at porn. Some men may end up lying to their mates and secretly look at porn if they are faced with this decision and they are used to looking at porn on a regular basis.

This man personally does not think looking at porn is cheating on a mate, unless there are ground rules in place where both parties agree that looking at porn is cheating. If that is agreed upon, the man should respect his mate's wishes. But just looking and cheating are two different things otherwise.

Porn can be healthy for a relationship, but it can be detrimental as well. Normal is relative, one would guess that more people look at porn than not, thus if the majority equals normality, then looking at porn may indeed by normal. It may be different in your particular social circle.