I'm so moody!!!!!!!!!!

[toodles]

I'm very moody. irritable. i swear i just keep snapping at everyone! i don't know how my dh puts up with me. I get to the point at the end of the day that anything and everything he says is just wrong. i can be in a great mood all day and then he starts talking to me and i just lose it. i am not cut out for marriage. honestly. i really have my days when i just dont know if I can do it.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by toodles

I'm very moody. irritable. i swear i just keep snapping at everyone! i don't know how my dh puts up with me. I get to the point at the end of the day that anything and everything he says is just wrong. i can be in a great mood all day and then he starts talking to me and i just lose it. i am not cut out for marriage. honestly. i really have my days when i just dont know if I can do it.

I think everyone has days like this. You are not a bad person and I'm sure you are a great wife. Don't be too hard on yourself. I'm sure your hubby understands.

[toodles]

i am a very independent person and he is one of those types that feels he has to take care of people all the time...hold their hand through life. I have a hard time with that. I am ok with him "taking care of me" in the ways that a husband should...but it gets to be too much with him sometimes. I am just irritated. every day it gets harder. it wasn't like this AT ALL before we got married!!

[Forgivenmom5]

You haven't been married very long and it takes time to get used to each other. Just give it time and I'm sure it will be OK..sometimes we just try too hard

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Forgivenmom5

You haven't been married very long and it takes time to get used to each other. Just give it time and I'm sure it will be OK..sometimes we just try too hard

This is true. Some say the first year of marriage is one of the most difficult because you have to adjust to each other and learn to live together in a way that is acceptable to both of you. There's a lot to figure out during the first year, but you'll get there.

[toodles]

Originally Posted by Forgivenmom5

You haven't been married very long and it takes time to get used to each other. Just give it time and I'm sure it will be OK..sometimes we just try too hard

I hope you are right. He just pushes buttons that I can't handle. it seems to get worse and worse every day. we have lived together for 2 years+ and have been legally married for 1 year in May. we had our big wedding in Nov. (we are weird like that....). so I guess I just expected it would get better and not worse. it is getting worse. our relationship has gone from loving and affectionate to more of a business type of relationship. in a very short time. it's weird.

[Forgivenmom5]

Maybe it would help for the two of you to get away--Maybe on a weekend when your little one is with her Dad

[toodles]

Originally Posted by Forgivenmom5

Maybe it would help for the two of you to get away--Maybe on a weekend when your little one is with her Dad

we really do need that. but i am afraid it will just go back to "normal" when we get home. we work very closely together in our careers and it just makes it that much harder for us.

he adores me. he really does. i wish i adored him as much as he does me. i love him. but i hate to admit that it is not quite as strong as his feelings for me are. i wish it weren't like that. like I said...i love him. but my passion just isn't there anymore. i'm burned out.

dont worry...we won't get divorced. we will try counseling and stuff like that before we ever get divorced. neither of us really believe in it. we believe in doing all we can to fix things.

i just don't know how to make him understand that i feel this way. we have the "talks" about it and he says he doesn't mean to be this way, but he is. and he never does anything to try and change it. and honestly, he tries to turn it back to me whenever he gets an inkling of an opportunity to. so nothing changes. and something really needs to change.

[DianaB]

If you're on birth control pills they can make you really moody. I couldn't take them and my girls can't either.

[toodles]

I am on them. I have been for quite a while. I might check with my dr. on this.

[toodles]

i can't help but wonder if it is just me having a bad attitude. i really do have an attitude problem sometimes.

[Passionfruition]

I think we all can suffer from bad attitudes sometimes. (Some people more than others...and I've known a girl or two to have permanent pms...lol....just kidding...sortof...)

I am on "the patch" - and for me, it is sooo much better than the pill (or the shot).

It helps me to put things in perspective and think about all the blessings my life holds. Ohh, St. John's Wort also helps. And hot tea. And chocolate!

[Mandy]

Toodles, many many woman are like you, so never feel that you are the only one. Glad you came on here to chat about it.
You are a good wife, and mommy!
I know after a while a marriage/relationschip can become stale, it needs nurturing like friendships do.
It might be nice to get away, dont be too serious in the relationschip all the time, go have fun together, even if its just doing silly things together to make you both laugh.
Go out on dates with your hubby, tell him you will meet him in a restaurant or bar or anywhere you fancy going. Keep it exciting, and find each other again.
We tend to lose each other specially because kids demand a lot of our time, which is normal, but at times we have to set them aside for a little while to take care of yourselves.

[toodles]

Thank you all for your encouragement. I agree, we really need to have more fun together. We both work for ourselves but our companies are intertwined so we just need to get away from it all and have some fun.

thanks again!!!!!!!! I feel a little better today. I will talk to him today about coming up with some ideas.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by toodles

Thank you all for your encouragement. I agree, we really need to have more fun together. We both work for ourselves but our companies are intertwined so we just need to get away from it all and have some fun.

thanks again!!!!!!!! I feel a little better today. I will talk to him today about coming up with some ideas.

Tell ya what, why dont you book a hot air balloon trip for the two of you. Do something exciting and unexpected for him, you will see that he will do something next time, by doing that, you make it a habit to surprise each other.