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Old 09-13-2006, 06:53 AM   #1
Ponyup
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Why did you decide to have children?

Back story: I am 26 years old, my husband & I have been married 4 years. I always wanted children I thought my calling in life was to be an awesome mom. This was discussed before we were married & my husband decided it would be best to wait at least 3 years. Well by the time my 3 year anniversary rolled around I decided I didn't want children, my husband is okay with this....however, other people in my life or not. It's not that I don't like children I love them, & it's not that I don't think I'd be a good mom. It's just that my childhood, school years were absolutely miserable & I think society & the school system have gone down the drain since then (this is no way a slam at teachers I think you do the best you can with what you are allowed to do). I substitute taught in a small public school system & I was just apalled at the way the kids acted & what they knew already & talked about. I just not sure that is something I want to send an innocent child into. I am just very nervous that even if I do a great job what are they going to learn at school, how do I unteach that kind of stuff, how do I keep them on a straight path when it's the uncool thing to do. I just not sure it's fair to bring a child into that situation just because it's something I am supposed to do. Please let me know what your experiences have been in these areas.

Disclaimer: I mean no disrespect to people that are having children right now, that you are bad people or anything....these are just the thoughts going through my head.
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