Wow...

[Lindsey]

It has been awhile since I've visited! And I'm in a much better place in my life now.
If anyone cares, here's an update! I guess sometimes you just can't see what's right in front of you. Kyle and I met at the same time I met my ex, Ryden. They were friends and we all went on a snowboarding trip together. Ryden and I always joked that I should date Kyle instead because we were way more alike, but of course it was just joking, I never looked at another guy while I was dating Ryden. After we broke up, Kyle and I hung out a lot as friends, and with his other friends who seemed to be a lot more fun for me. Instead of having to go drinking every night of the weekend they'd go bowling for one night, or sit around and watch the hockey game. Kyle had a girlfriend for a month or two who none of us really liked but we all put up with her because she was Kyle's girlfriend. Then they broke up. We kept hanging out but it got to be more and more just Kyle and I, less of his friends around all the time. Our hanging out turned into more date-like activities like movies and mini-golf, just the two of us. I think we both knew inside that we liked each other, but we were both way too scared to make a move! One night, finally after over a month of awkardness, he kissed me. But he says I kissed him. Either way, right after I said "How long have you wanted to do that for?" and he said "Oh a little while"
We both had a talk with Ryden about it. It was the first real talk I've had with him since we broke up. I said we've went long enough without talking, and it's about time we catch up and maybe try to be friends, and he agreed. He has no problems with Kyle and I being together, saying we're both great people and he would love to see us both happy. Ryden and I are both small town people, we've grown up with friends dating exes so I knew he'd be okay with it, but city-boy Kyle wasn't so sure. He's okay with it now though! On Friday I had a pubcrawl for my birthday and a lot of Kyle's friends came out for it. One guy who I've also known since I've known Kyle said "Everyone knew this was gonna happen from the start! You and Kyle are good for each other!"
So we're just taking this relationship slowly now. Very very very slowly. We both want something that's going to work long-term and not be based just on physical attraction. I love cuddling with him, and talking, and hanging out doing fun things.
In other good news, one of my best girl friends from back home is moving to my city on the 30th. Not just to my city, but to my house! We have an extra bedroom and could use some help with rent and bills, and I'm so excited to have another girl to talk to!
Today is my birthday and I feel like everything is going my way these days. I'm going to try to get back here more often and get back into 4WT!

[Tink]

Welcome Back Lindsey!
I'm so glad to hear you're happy again.
Here's hoping life continues to go well for you and your dreams all come true.

[DianaB]

Good to hear from you Lindsey and I'm glad that things are better for you. I think that you're very wise to go very slowly with this relationship. You'll have a much better foundation to build your friendship on (or whatever it develops into). Good luck!

[Lindsey]

Thanks ladies... and I am so happy to have found a guy who wants to wait as much as I do. He cares about me, and he listens to my stupid stories. Tonight he is getting all dressed up to take me out to a restaurant for my birthday after work. He even got his hair cut especially for it! All just because I wanted to wear a dress!

[Taurus Babe]

AWWW! Great Lindsey! I'm so happy to hear things are going better, with all the no so great things going on in your life a few months ago, about time things got better! Kyle sounds like a great guy. HAPPY BIRTHDAY by the way. I hope you have a lovely evening!

[Lindsey]

Oh my gosh... I wasn't expecting anything tonight other than a meal, but he came to pick me up and brought a dozen red roses to my door! The restaurant was kinda fancy, and we both thought we'd probably not go there again. After that we didn't know what to do, so we just went to the theatre and watched a movie. He just dropped me off at home, and I feel like I'm floating! It was a great birthday!

[Mandy]

Im so glad to hear everything is turning out great for you Lindsey, nice to see you back, and Happy Birthday!! Sounds like you had a wonderful evening

[Janet]

Welcome back Lindsey!!! You've been missed. I'm so glad you had a great birthday and that you have someone you care about in your life. I am thrilled you are taking it slower this time. I hate for one of our 4WT friends to be hurt, so enjoy the relationship, but if possible, don't expect a lasting relationship until you get to know each other much better. Please remember to keep your own life and not lose it in a relationship. I wish you only the best.

[Lindsey]

Thanks Janet for your concern! I know not to expect anything too soon, and Kyle and I have been good friends for the past year and a half so I think I know him pretty well. I've seen him go through two relationships, and he's seen me through mine. I know I've never been this compatible with anyone else before. But right now I'm just enjoying spending time with him. Oh and he also gave me some insight into my ex, and what kind of person he really is. Kyle knew more about our relationship than even I did... and it turns out I didn't get dumped because he didn't have feelings for me. I got dumped so he could smoke weed more, because I wouldn't let him do it around me. Kyle is the only one out of Ryden's friends who doesn't do drugs at all, and I don't do drugs at all. I think he's the first guy I've found who won't touch it!

[Marilyn]

Lindsey, it is so good to have you back. I know some of us were wondering how you were doing. So fantastic that you have found such a wonderful friend, and great that you are taking it slow. People get in too much of a hurry these days and get hurt so much more because of it. Take care and hope to hear from you again very soon.

BTW, Happy Belated Birthday!!!!