What's Going On........

[DianaB]

Sorry Everyone but I deleted the post. I've been so hurt by everyone's hard feelings towards Damon and Dae Lynn and today's been a really, really bad day. I decided that maybe it was best to not air our dirty laundry after all.

Jason, Amy's husband, and I ended up at odds with each other today over a post he made on FB and we've been back and forth on the e-mail there.......and it has boiled down basically that they are jealous of the help we've given Dae Lynn and Damon. It even ended up where Jason said "Do you know how long it been since I could afford to go on vacation.." All because Dae Lynn and Damon went to Branson last weekend with his Dad paying for ALL of it......and they went to KC and went to the Schlitterbahn.......spent about $200 altogether. Jealousy!!!!

I'm so tired of all of this.......tired of people's attitudes......tired of my husband's attitude.......just sick and tired.

Janet, as far as what Jason posted.....it is probably true but was posted as a dig to Dae Lynn anyway......with that being his excuse. If you notice.....Tammy also posted a couple of things about food stamps today as well. Coincidence??? I don't think so.

[Janet]

I know this has to be so hard for you. They just don't realize that you would do the same for them if they needed it. I'm always here if you need me.

[gja1000]

Oh Diana, I'm so sorry all this is happening. I didn't realize Jason was Amy's husband. They are jealous. Jealousy is such a hurtful emotion. I wish it didn't exist. I agree with Janet, I wish he would realize that you all would do the same for them if they needed it.

I'm so sorry, this has caused a rift in your family. We all know it happens to all of us from time to time, but I just wish it didn't have to happen. I want everyone to get along and be happy to just "have" each other. It will never happen, but that's my wish.

[DianaB]

Thanks for your support, Janet and Gayle.

Yes, it is jealousy. Jason's upset because he can't afford a vacation. Dae Lynn and Damon budget for a vacation.......she saves her money for them to go places. Also the trip to Branson was paid for by Damon's Dad. How do you turn that down?......just because your sister and BIL can't afford it????

Then Amy made the comment that she was jealous that Damon bought Dae Lynn an iPad???!!!!! Amy and Jason have had help in the past from his aunt and uncle. They have given them computers and bought Jason a pickup truck. Yes, Amy and Jason's money is tight.......I don't understand why because they both have fairly good jobs. I do know in the past they haven't made good decisions in things that they've bought but as a parent you have to stand by and let them do that hoping that they learn their lesson. The 4-wheeler that we bought for them was because they were wanting one but we gave them the choice as to whether they wanted to pay bills or buy a 4-wheeler so that wasn't a good decision on their part. Should we bail them out of that? No, I don't think so......that was their decision......a poor one.

Damon and Dae Lynn have looked at a house and I think are going to buy it but we're afraid of what everyone's reaction is going to be. The house is more expensive than the other one they were looking at but it has a rental trailer house with it that will make most of their payment. Also the house is listed way below appraisal value. The woman is a friend of ours and she just lost her husband and it's just too much for her to take care of. We're just not telling anyone......including Glen......about what's going on. They'll just have to deal with their jealousy and problems. Dae Lynn and Damon have to do what's best for them.

I was in tears this morning because of a talk that Glen and Dae Lynn had last night. Dae Lynn was actually very encouraging to me. I'm going to miss her when she moves out......at least she won't be far away!!!

[DianaB]

Well.....I talked to Amy briefly yesterday and yes.....Jason put his post on FB knowing that Dae Lynn had an iPad. He DID see a woman paying with foodstamps and a child playing on an iPad so that was his excuse for posting it but it was a dig at Dae Lynn. Jason is the one who continually stirs up trouble for Damon and Dae Lynn. There is quite an argument over how much we have spent on her.....her schooling.....which she has a $20,000 loan to pay off.......there's a question about who's bought her cars.....we bought ONE.......I think that there is a LOT of jealousy and speculation going on and none of it is right and that's what's causing all of the trouble. We're going to ignore all of it and consider the source. Dae Lynn's going to stay away from Amy and Jason for awhile but as soon as they get their house it's going to all come up again.....because they are going to assume that we're helping them but we're not. Dae Lynn's not even going to tell Glen that they're buying it so he can honestly say that he didn't know anything about it. It's just sad. I'm so diappointed in my family sometimes and that's sad because they are really good people.

[Janet]

Seems to me that when Jason starts this behavior, Amy needs to remind him that Dae Lynn is her family too and that he needs to keep his mouth shut and innuendos to himself....not FB.

[gja1000]

Family!!! Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em. That's not really true and I guess it isn't just family, but human nature. Jealousy is such an awful vice. It's one of the 7 deadly sins (I think). Why can't people just be happy (or neutral) for others fortunes. Not that Dae Lynn and Damon are fortunate by any stretch of the imagination, they have had so many struggles. But when things go right for a change, why can people be happy or just neutral. Jealousy causes so much strife.