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06-05-2007, 06:11 PM
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I agree with Lissa that it's very important to let her know that it isn't her fault. Like the others said, the best thing you can do is just be there for her and play it by ear. Talk to her if that's what she wants and just be there for her if she isn't ready to talk about it just yet. I'm sorry that this tragedy has happened, but I'm glad your friend has you to be there for her. That will mean more to her than you could know, I'm sure.
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06-06-2007, 03:13 AM
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What a very sad thing to go through. I would definitely be there for her. Let her do most of the talking, but assure her it isn't her fault. Assure her that there are many people who are just feeling so overwhelmed that they can't think clearly and if he would have been, he wouldn't have done this. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, but when we feel so overwhelmed we don't think about the consequences and what it does to those that are left behind.
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06-06-2007, 07:31 AM
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Very well said Janet.
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06-06-2007, 09:08 AM
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I agree. Very well said, Janet.
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06-06-2007, 11:55 PM
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I agree too, very well said Janet. Hunbun, im sorry your friend is having to go through this, just be by her side, she is really going to need you.
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06-07-2007, 05:18 AM
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Tough one. I also agree with Janet.
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06-08-2007, 07:57 AM
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That's really sad. As long as she knows you're there for her, that's all you can do.
Let her know you really are there and let her take the lead in what she wants to talk about, I think. I guess it also depends on your relationship too. Just keep it going, and we're here for you if it gets difficult.
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