Depressed getting old at 64

[Janet]

Donna...that makes me so sad you are thinking this way. I do think there are times when we all think about our dying for a fleeting moment, but any longer I don't think is healthy.

For all of us...our days are numbered, it's what you do with those days that will bring you peace of mind and joy.

I wish everyone could meet my mother!! She's 85, not in the greatest of health, but she still drives, still pulls a tag-a-long camper to go camping with a campers group she has belonged to for 40 years. Does everything for herself...does what she wants, when she wants, loves her computer, and will not join the local senior citizens center because according to her....everyone there is too old. LOL.

Start thinking about how wonderful life is and that you have a very long time left. I hope you can do that.

Whenever you get down...just come here. Someone here will lift your spirits. I know they do it for me...every time!

[janc]

Originally Posted by Janet

Donna...that makes me so sad you are thinking this way. I do think there are times when we all think about our dying for a fleeting moment, but any longer I don't think is healthy.

For all of us...our days are numbered, it's what you do with those days that will bring you peace of mind and joy.

I wish everyone could meet my mother!! She's 85, not in the greatest of health, but she still drives, still pulls a tag-a-long camper to go camping with a campers group she has belonged to for 40 years. Does everything for herself...does what she wants, when she wants, loves her computer, and will not join the local senior citizens center because according to her....everyone there is too old. LOL.

Start thinking about how wonderful life is and that you have a very long time left. I hope you can do that.

Whenever you get down...just come here. Someone here will lift your spirits. I know they do it for me...every time!

Janet,
Your mother rocks!! I would like to emulate her!

[Janet]

Originally Posted by janc

Janet,
Your mother rocks!! I would like to emulate her!

She sure does!! I hope I can do all that she does at that age.

[pearl]

fibromyalgia is really rough. many times it's not well understood either. you sound quite depressed. are you on antidepressants?
at times all we can do is put one foot in front of the other and get through 15 minutes at a time. i believe thinking positive can help health. ignore the negative thoughts, exercise as much as you are able, get in sunshine, turn on music you like, think positive thoughts no matter how much the effort.
believing your days are numbered can make it happen.
i remember a book by norman cousins called "anatomy of an illness." he got past a spinal illness by watching marx brothers movies, comedies, laughing; all positive. it worked.

[Forgivenmom5]

I have a friend who has fibromyalgia. I know she is in a lot of pain most of the time. I know that has to be hard but God will get you through. Come here anytime and we will all help as much as we can too.

[donna1990]

Originally Posted by pearl

fibromyalgia is really rough. many times it's not well understood either. you sound quite depressed. are you on antidepressants?
at times all we can do is put one foot in front of the other and get through 15 minutes at a time. i believe thinking positive can help health. ignore the negative thoughts, exercise as much as you are able, get in sunshine, turn on music you like, think positive thoughts no matter how much the effort.
believing your days are numbered can make it happen.
i remember a book by norman cousins called "anatomy of an illness." he got past a spinal illness by watching marx brothers movies, comedies, laughing; all positive. it worked.

I have been on an antidepressants for many years. They think it helps with the pain. But I am depressed. I appreciate all of you trying to help me FIX ME!!
This is hard for me to say, but since my husband had cancer, he is impotent and I miss the closeness that we shared. Just feel lost.

[Tink]

Donna,

Not to get too graphic, but just because you can't push a chain doesn't mean you can't still move the car! There are so many other ways to be intimate with your partner, and he would probably enjoy exploring those as much as you would. I would imagine that might be part of his depression as well.

[Janet]

Tink...I was feeling bad that I didn't know what to say to help Donna feel better, then I read your post. What a very simple, yet comforting suggestion.

I hope there is someway you can take Tink's advice and make it work for you and your husband.

[pearl]

Originally Posted by donna1990

I have been on an antidepressants for many years. They think it helps with the pain. But I am depressed. I appreciate all of you trying to help me FIX ME!!
This is hard for me to say, but since my husband had cancer, he is impotent and I miss the closeness that we shared. Just feel lost.

well, not to get too graphic either, but i was in a rrelationship with a man for a year and a half who needed the ol' viagra. and it didn't always work. so, from experience i can tell you there are a lot of other ways that work well. and, personally i LOVE just kissing. so, have fun!