How long did you date B4 you married him?

[magnolia]

Met my hubby through mutual friends in August of '84 and we were just friends. Our first "date" was on January 11, 1985 but it was more just our first time out without being around a group of our friends! We officially became a couple in March of '85, engaged in July '85, and married on January 11, 1986 - we will celebrate 21 years of marriage next year.

Met 9/8/01 - (we were both very drunk & he asked for my number without writing it down. I was shocked that he remembered it & called)
First Date 9/13/01 (two days after 9/11, so I'll never forget)
Proposed Aug 04 - (said no)
Engaged 3/3/05.......
No date set for wedding yet


I've never been married, whereas he was married for just over a year a loooong time ago (he's older). We both owned our own houses when we met & almost instantly stayed every night together, alternating between his house & mine. Eventually, it was only his. Our relationship was great, just a few little things & one big thing.....Lack of Committment!! I had had enough & put my house on the market w/out telling him the 'why' which he later discovered that I was planning on 'moving on'. He dropped many a tear & then a knee & proposed. I said no, because it was not meant as an altimatum(sp?) & didn't want a proposal like that. But I wasn't moving out of state until my house sold. He was a changed man. He proposed again in March & I said yes. Since then, we have built a new home together & the focus has been off of a wedding. It's still important to me, but somehow I've become content with things the way they are. He's a great guy & treats me wonderfully.