i'm done trying !!

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by HALEY

could you give me some highlights of the book? I really don't have the time to read a book right now, something i really miss, i read alot of book, before baby came along.

Basically the book explains how there are 5 different ways of feeling loved.

1. Words of Affirmation (telling you that you look great, that you did something wonderful, etc)

2. Gifts (receiving gifts)

3. Quality time (Time spent one on one with no interruptions)

4. Touch (being touched, holding hands, getting a massage from your loved one)

5. Acts of service (This is where you feel loved by the things that your spouse does. Such as mowing the yard or doing things around the house for you.)

My love language is Quality time. I long to have one-on-one with my husband without interruptions. (That's why I hate cell phones) Since he's read the book he knows what makes me feel loved. However his love language is Touch. I know that by touching him his "love tank" gets filled.

We were having a lot of problems before I read the book, enough that I was about to leave. Neither of us quite knew what was going on. I just knew that I didn't feel loved, like everything was more important that I was. When I got the book I cried through two of the chapters because they really spoke to what I was feeling. My husband isn't a reader and we were hardly communicating during that time, I ended up leaving the book next to the toilet when I was gone for the weekend. When I got home we had a discussion about the book and he read it. Things have been soooo much better! It really helped to turn our marriage around. At first he did ALL of the love languages!!! I would get a lot of little gifts from him and he spent a little extra time with me. Of course, it's not one sided, I have to do my part as well, but when we're getting along Touch is pretty easy to do.

The book has ideas on how to incorporate these in your life. It really is a very easy book to read. I'd send you mine but I can't find it, my husband probably loaned it out already. I really recommend that you get the book. Check on e-bay or on CBD.com. I suggest that you make some time and read this. It could really help your marriage. Good luck!

Here's a thread where he brought home a bunch of gifts.

http://www.4womentalk.com/forums/sho...hlight=bouquet

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by DianaB

Basically the book explains how there are 5 different ways of feeling loved.

1. Words of Affirmation (telling you that you look great, that you did something wonderful, etc)

2. Gifts (receiving gifts)

3. Quality time (Time spent one on one with no interruptions)

4. Touch (being touched, holding hands, getting a massage from your loved one)

5. Acts of service (This is where you feel loved by the things that your spouse does. Such as mowing the yard or doing things around the house for you.)

My love language is Quality time. I long to have one-on-one with my husband without interruptions. (That's why I hate cell phones) Since he's read the book he knows what makes me feel loved. However his love language is Touch. I know that by touching him his "love tank" gets filled.

We were having a lot of problems before I read the book, enough that I was about to leave. Neither of us quite knew what was going on. I just knew that I didn't feel loved, like everything was more important that I was. When I got the book I cried through two of the chapters because they really spoke to what I was feeling. My husband isn't a reader and we were hardly communicating during that time, I ended up leaving the book next to the toilet when I was gone for the weekend. When I got home we had a discussion about the book and he read it. Things have been soooo much better! It really helped to turn our marriage around. At first he did ALL of the love languages!!! I would get a lot of little gifts from him and he spent a little extra time with me. Of course, it's not one sided, I have to do my part as well, but when we're getting along Touch is pretty easy to do.

The book has ideas on how to incorporate these in your life. It really is a very easy book to read. I'd send you mine but I can't find it, my husband probably loaned it out already. I really recommend that you get the book. Check on e-bay or on CBD.com. I suggest that you make some time and read this. It could really help your marriage. Good luck!

Here's a thread where he brought home a bunch of gifts.

http://www.4womentalk.com/forums/sho...hlight=bouquet

Thanks Diana, Wal-marts has this book for 8.00, going to pick it up payday.
i'll start reading it at night when the baby goes to bed.

[HALEY]

i justed checked on the book again, when i get done reading that one, they also have one for children, and teens. it might take me awhile to read it Diana, but i'll read a couple pages everynight until i finish it. Thanks girl...
i really do miss reading books, felt like i could escape in them sometimes.

[DianaB]

I'm glad that you were able to find one. We're doing a study on "The Five Love Languages of Children". There's also one on Apologetics. I probably need to read that one too. I have a really hard time apologizing. I hope that the book helps. For $8 it's certainly worth a try and I hope that your husband will read it as well.

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by DianaB

I'm glad that you were able to find one. We're doing a study on "The Five Love Languages of Children". There's also one on Apologetics. I probably need to read that one too. I have a really hard time apologizing. I hope that the book helps. For $8 it's certainly worth a try and I hope that your husband will read it as well.

If i like the five love languages of love, i'm getting the children's one next
i hope he reads it to, when i'm done with it, i'll give the book to him. i couldn't believe wal-marts has it, i checked online, now i just hope the store has it, or i'll just order it.

[judy]

That sounds like a wonderful book! What a great perspective on relationships. I'm going to find a copy to, even though I'm not in a relationship right now.

Sometimes we expect the other person to appreciate what we're doing, and it's just not what they need.

Haley, I am praying for you and Micah and your hubby for the best possible outcome. You're a wonderful woman and you deserve the best.

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by judy

That sounds like a wonderful book! What a great perspective on relationships. I'm going to find a copy to, even though I'm not in a relationship right now.

Sometimes we expect the other person to appreciate what we're doing, and it's just not what they need.

Haley, I am praying for you and Micah and your hubby for the best possible outcome. You're a wonderful woman and you deserve the best.

Thanks Judy, You're also a wonderful woman as well... I'm trying...