I'm just so tired.....

[HALEY]

i know what you mean Marilyn, i cried for days when i came back to work, leaving my child with a stanger, called her 6 times a day! I hated going back to work, back was cracking up stuck at home all day also.. we also can't live on one income, and i guess i took it the wrong way that you enveyed her, i have to work we have bills and with a child it just got more expensive.. i too wish i could stay home, but i can't.. but that's the choice i made also.. hang in there, it will get better, i also will be one of those people that work til the day i die. my retirement is gone thanks to the ecomomy so i'm working to try and rebuild it going to be harder now since my company not matching my 401k, i have to look for another investment sometime in the near furture..

[Marilyn]

I feel guilty for venting. I know we all have some regrets and whatever choices we made, there are some we would change given the opportunity. My life is really very good. Just resent working so much when so many of my friends don't work outside the home and don't realize what a blessing that is. Hopefully I can eventually retire, and hopefully I'll still be healthy enough to do some of the things I dream of doing.

We're going to sell our home and find an older home with lower taxes to try to get into a better position. Our home is paid for, but the property taxes have gotten way out of hand. We can buy an older home, remodel and cut our taxes in half. We still have savings, and our financial guy is playing with our money a bit and has regained a little of our losses from the market drops.

Just have to get my chin up and put a smile on the old face. In spite of the dought, heat, economy, my stiff sore hand and all the other details of life. God is good and life is good!!!

PS. Thank you for sharing some of your pasts. Maybe this thread has been a bit thereputic. Love you all!!!

[judy]

So now you are regretting talking about your regrets?

Marilyn, if you can't share with us, then who can you vent with?
Cutting down on your taxes sounds like a very good idea! That's a huge expense.
Now that the children are out, you can live anywhere you want.

[Janet]

I think it was theraputic too. We all have regrets, wishes and dreams. I'm just glad we can share them all together.

We haven't paid our property taxes yet. Our county and a few others in the state are having a hard time getting the bills out. I have the money saved back, but I'm not giving it to them until they send our tax statement. They need to start running this county like a business and get their jobs done.

Property taxes are high everywhere I think. I will be good to get them lowered. Judy's right....now you can live anywhere you want.

[HALEY]

they just reasset my house i am so mad, the old assement was 48,700 and the new one is 84,700, now how the heck could it go that high? like i said before here comes the taxes, i wanted to fight it, but with all the rules it wasn't worth the time or the money i guess...

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by HALEY

they just reasset my house i am so mad, the old assement was 48,700 and the new one is 84,700, now how the heck could it go that high? like i said before here comes the taxes, i wanted to fight it, but with all the rules it wasn't worth the time or the money i guess...

Haley, we had a big jump, too, nothing like your's though. We tried to fight it and got nowhere, however, I really think something is wrong with yours. That is just too much of a jump. It would definitely be worth meeting with your appraiser and trying to fight it. I think you would get it lowered a bit if you do. Our next door neighbor got his lowered. He was very persistent and wouldn't leave the appraisers office until his was lowered. Maybe hubby and I were just too nice.

Wish you well!!!

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

Haley, we had a big jump, too, nothing like your's though. We tried to fight it and got nowhere, however, I really think something is wrong with yours. That is just too much of a jump. It would definitely be worth meeting with your appraiser and trying to fight it. I think you would get it lowered a bit if you do. Our next door neighbor got his lowered. He was very persistent and wouldn't leave the appraisers office until his was lowered. Maybe hubby and I were just too nice.

Wish you well!!!

I waited to long Marilyn the deadline was july 31 st, they appraised it by the sell of the homes around my area, i got the house from an estate sale i know the house was low when i got it even the attorney said he should have jacked up the price, its just such a hassel, i would have to get an attorney and get the house reappraised, and go to a hearing, i just wish i had the time, been running my butt off now - just never get a break... so i just said the hell with it.. don't plan on living there the rest of my life anyways.. still looking for a house and another job,, its just getting to much for me..

[Gina]

Originally Posted by HALEY

they just reasset my house i am so mad, the old assement was 48,700 and the new one is 84,700, now how the heck could it go that high? like i said before here comes the taxes, i wanted to fight it, but with all the rules it wasn't worth the time or the money i guess...

Haley, Marilyn we are fighting our new assessements tomorrow. I will let you know how we make out. These taxes in NJ are getting out of hand. People are leaving this state and its a shame. Its really a beautiful place to live and raise kids.


Back to Marilyn, its ok to vent we all need a place to come and get away from our daily lives. I hope by you selling your home you will be able to enjoy and not work so hard. I was lucky to stay home with my kids when they were young, yes I did sacrifice a lot , vacations, dinners out etc. but it was worth staying home and being a PTA mom.. dance committee etc.. I don't regret it. I am back to work now you need two salaries to survive.

[HALEY]

Gina let me know how it went, do you have an attorney? or did you need to get your house reapraised?